Is your fiancé truly and totally your BFF? He should be, because having your husband as your number one go-to person will actually make you happier over the course of your lifetime.
A recent study by the National Bureau of Economic Research says that people who consider their spouse to be their best friend get about twice as much life satisfaction from marriage as others. Here's an odd twist: Women benefit more from being married to their best friend than men do, though they're less likely to regard their spouse as their best friend. So you may want to re-think who really is you BF...F.
It's later in life — when you're fighting the good fight against a thickening waistline and burgeoning wrinkles — when you'll really feel the benefits of marrying your best friend. At mid-life crisis stage, with the stresses and demands of career and family, you'll have a much shallower dip in life satisfaction because you share your life with your BFF.
"People who are married can handle midlife stress better than those who aren't because they have a shared load and shared friendship," author of the paper John Helliwell of the Vancouver School of Economics said. "Maybe what is really important is friendship, and to never forget that in the push and pull of daily life."
It's not exactly fun to look ahead to thinning hair and crow's feet. But if this guy you're about to marry is truly your best friend, you still be laughing together in your bathroom mirror as you each apply your nightly Rogaine and Retin-A.
*Allison Moir-Smith, MA, is the author of Emotionally Engaged: A Bride's Guide to Surviving the '"Happiest" Time of Her Life and has been helping brides feel happier, calmer and better prepared for marriage since 2002. She is a bridal counselor, an expert in engagement anxiety and cold feet, and the founder of *Emotionally Engaged Counseling for Brides.