You couldn't have been more thrilled when he popped the question and you squealed, "yes!" But in the days, weeks, or months that followed, perhaps another thought has crept into your mind: Am I making the right decision? While you may feel like you're the only engaged woman who has freaked out over forever, the truth is many brides have second thoughts before they say "I do." Here, three women reveal when those worries crept in and how they go over them.
"I wasn't worried until a married friend had a few too many glasses of wine and told me how unhappy she was in her own marriage," says one woman. "It took me by complete surprise because she had seemed so happy. And I remember thinking, if that wasn't real, what shot do we have? But I had to let go of that fear and just say to myself, 'we're not them. We are actually happy.'"
"What gave me pause were the price tags. I mean, it's one thing to think that a wedding will inevitably be expensive and quite another to be surrounded by $10,000 dresses in a bridal salon," says another. "So for me, it was never second-guessing our commitment or my desire to get married. It was more like, do we really need a wedding? In the end, we really pared things down and did the whole backyard thing. And seeing our final budget made me calm, not panicked."
"At first, my fiancé wasn't especially active when it came to wedding planning, and it really got under my skin," says one woman. "I kind of let my mind run wild with it. I thought that if he was this hands-off about our wedding, he'd be a nightmare when it came to buying a house or raising kids. When I finally asked him what was up, he explained he thought I didn't want his opinion. It was a total miscommunication on both our parts, and everything worked out just fine once we expressed what we were thinking."