You've got many plans for your honeymoon — and not a single one includes fighting with your new husband. But the reality is, "after the stress and excitement of your wedding, it's normal to feel overtired and maybe even overwhelmed," says Andrea Syrtash, relationship expert and author of How to Cheat on Your Husband (With Your Husband). "Give yourself a break and remember what the honeymoon is about — enjoying your partnership and celebrating your new union together."
Spend your honeymoon time soaking up your love, not sparring, with these expert tips.
Catch up on your Z's.
"Planning and executing a wedding is stressful and exhausting, and after the big day is over, it can feel like a let down," explains relationship expert Dana Corey. "Taking some extra time before rushing off to the honeymoon — which holds so much expectation — and catching up on sleep is crucial." If you can, consider delaying your departure for up to two days after your wedding, giving you time to snag some R&R and digest you big day.
Spend time alone, even on the trip.
"Take some time for yourself, if you can," says Syrtash. "You've been surrounded by people and in major entertaining mode — so a little time to de-stress, solo, before you start traveling will be good for your body, mind and spirit." Even after you embark, Corey encourages alone time. "Time to think, process, breathe," she says. "Marriage is a really big deal, and it takes being mindful of one's emotions and thoughts to handle such a big change with ease and grace."
When he gets under >your skin, tell him — nicely.
"Make a commitment to each other to communicate if anything comes up ... rather than letting it fester," Syrtash says. "This is good practice for marriage, of course. And decide that if you disagree, you'll listen to each other and not undermine the other's opinion. Fighting is OK, but name-calling or disrespecting your partner during a disagreement is not."
Compromise on the itinerary.
While your dream honeymoon may look like sipping Mai Tai's on a beach, his may look like repelling down a jungle waterfall. "Talk through what you're hoping for and looking forward to, and agree to incorporate some of each person's desires," before you leave, suggests Corey. "What does it mean to you, how do you envision the trip, what are your intentions behind spending this time together? When you know each other's expectations, it's much easier to plan to fulfill as many of them as you can."