You likely have a well-oiled morning routine that gets you dressed and out the door as quickly as possible. But slowing down to soak up extra time with your spouse could be the key to starting your day — and marriage! — off right.
"Spending quality time with your partner in the morning allows you to experience the closeness and intimacy in your relationship at the start of your day," explains Jane Greer, Ph.D., relationship expert and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship. "You can carry this with you through the day and feel more connected to each other."
With that in mind, here are five tips to maximize your morning time together.
Send your spouse out feeling good about him or herself.
"Pay attention to each other's outfits for work that day," suggests Greer. Could you suggest the perfect tie to complement his patterned shirt, or take note of how her plum dress sets off her eyes? "Let them know they look great, and that you like what they're wearing," Greer says.
Sweat together outside of the bedroom.
There's nothing wrong with morning sex. In fact, it's pretty awesome. But getting sweaty in the gym has similar bonding benefits to the workout you get between the sheets. "Exercising together gets your endorphins going, and helps you feel great," says Rachel DeAlto, relationship expert and author of Flirt Fearlessly. "Doing all of that with someone you love is even better!"
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You don't have to say goodbye to one another at the front door. While it may be easier or more convenient to take separate cars to work, commuting together "not only saves money, but gives you alone time you can count on every day," DeAlto says.
Write out a goal for the day.
"It may seem hokey to some," admits DeAlto, "But every morning over coffee, set an intention together on your goals for the day. They could be professional or personal, but they'll be all the more powerful when you set together." Of course, when you meet those goals, you'll have something special to celebrate in the evening.
Set a "snuggle" alarm.
You could sleep in, sure — or you could wake an extra 10 minutes early "just to snuggle with each other," Greer says. If you can't bear to wake up a moment sooner, consider hugging one another four times each morning, says DeAlto, who swears every person needs at least this many each day.
"All of these activities will help you share and express your love," says Greer. "You'll feel the love between you, and you'll feel more secure, positive, and confident about yourself and your marriage throughout the rest of your day."