As you walk down the aisle towards your husband-to-be, the last thing you should be thinking about is how much you detest his attire. Sometimes though, the groom chooses to go rogue and select his own wedding ensemble without the bride's stamp of approval, selecting a tux that doesn't feel up to snuff for your big day. So what is a bride to do when her fiancé's chosen wedding ensemble turns you off? Our etiquette experts weigh in on exactly how to address a groom's terrible tuxedo.
Before diving directly into an argument over aesthetics, thoughtfully consider whether your initial reaction to the tuxedo was truly justified. If the tuxedo isn't quite to your taste, there may be a manner of tailoring the suit's minor flaws to meet your expectations. However, if the tuxedo possesses no redeeming qualities, you should gently speak with your fiancé. As with any point of contention in your marriage, the best manner of resolving the disagreement is to calmly voice your opinions before attempting to find a solution that satisfies both parties. Be sure to think about what you wish to say beforehand. Refraining from the use of potentially inflammatory language such as "hate" or "detest" and favoring neutral adjectives will set a calmer tone for the discussion.
Try to begin the conversation on a positive by reassuring your fiancé that you admire his style and don't wish to denigrate his sartorial choices. Next, gently explain that while you respect your fiancé's right to choose his own outfit, you had a different vision for his wedding attire in mind. Your fiancé should understand from the dialogue that you are not attempting to deride his style or taste, but that there might be a better option for the big day out there. Finally, communicate to your fiancé your vision for his tuxedo. Ultimately, the choice to return the tuxedo or retain it for the wedding is your fiancé's, but with a bit of considerate encouragement your hubby-to-be might find a new option that suits both yours and his style.