Once all the wedding gifts have been unwrapped and you're surrounded by new kitchen gadgets and fluffy bath towels from your wedding registry, penning upwards of 50 or more thank-you notes can be a little overwhelming. Sending a generic "thanks" based off of a template card may feel like the way to go if you want to save time and brainpower, but taking a few moments to send a unique note is a great way to practice gratitude and also properly thank your generous guests. Here's how to do it.
NYC based wedding planner with Cloud Nove Events Regina Cialone says that proper etiquette dictates that the couple hand write the notes. Anything pre-printed might come across as "cold and impersonal," according to Cialone. Try to make what you write specific to each guest. "Dear Kelly and John, Thank you so much for joining us on our wedding day. It meant a lot to have you there, and we will forever have John's version of the 'Electric Slide' ingrained in our memories!" is a good example. "Even just a line or two of writing makes a difference," Cialone says.
The best way to tackle this seemingly never-ending task? Write the notes as you receive the gifts before and after the wedding. "Every Sunday, sit down with a cup of coffee and write out the thank-you notes for those items," says Alex Chalk of Taylor'd Events Group. But do a little planning first. Make a spreadsheet listing the invitee, the gift given, and then a third column to keep some helpful notes. Jot down whether you've used the item yet, what you like about it, or how you plan to enjoy it. For example, do you look forward to making weekend brunch with your new waffle iron? This kind of specificity will make the notes a little more personal and less generic, says Kristen Ley Green of Something New for I Do. "You can even do this with cash or gift cards," Green says. Let the gift-giver know what you plan to purchase or how you'll make use of their generosity.
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If you receive a contribution to your honeymoon as a wedding gift, Cialone suggests including a photo with the card to show how you enjoyed your post-nuptial getaway. And if you're looking for an even more unique visual element, consider cards like Lovepop and Popwish (with whimsical 3D paper sculptures inside) or Popcards (video message cards that can include either footage from the big day or a grateful greeting from you and your hubby).
Once you've picked out and penned the cards that best represent you as a couple, simply stamp the envelopes with your brand new monogram (if you decide to change your last name) like the Wilkins Stamp from Three Designing Women and drop them in the mailbox as soon as the ink dries. Then get back to enjoying life as newlyweds.