Getting engaged comes with a slew of questions, from friends who are curious about how the question was popped to relatives wondering when and where you'll tie the knot. And while these questions might get old pretty quickly, there are others that plain out rub you the wrong way. One such line of questioning revolves around your engagement ring. Whether it's people asking about the size and quality of the stone or (totally inappropriately) wondering how much it cost, it can feel sort of... gross to have this symbol of your love turned into a matter of material possessions. So how can you respond to people prying about your ring? Our experts weigh in.
Whether you know all the details or not, the specifics of your engagement ring are no one's business but yours and your fiancé's, and it can be frustrating when friends and acquaintances lose sight of what the ring represents and focus on the price tag.
Start by reminding whoever is doing the asking that what matters is what your ring represents. Say something like "You know, I've never thought about what it cost. I just love it, and I love that my fiancé picked it out for me!" to redirect attention to your engagement instead of just your ring. Then change the subject!
If questions about how big the stone is are paired with people wondering whether the stone is real, focus on how much it flatters your hand, or the design details that make it really special. Wearing a stone other than a diamond? You've got every right to explain why you picked morganite or a ruby — or the right to ignore the question!
Of course, if you really don't want to discuss it, say so! Saying you'd rather not talk about the value of the stone is a completely reasonable response, as is replying with your own question and saying "Why do you ask?". They might have a good reason — interest in finding an engagement ring of their own, for example — or they might just be curious, at which point you can say "You know, I'd rather not discuss it," and move on.