Every week, we give our readers a glimpse inside the mindset of a guy's brain on weddings with the help of the hilarious and smart editors at The Plunge. For their latest installment, they're outlining the 5 things guys have to do before the purchase an engagement ring.
So you've dropped every hint imaginable and your guy still doesn't seem any closer to proposing? Don't sweat it. Buying the ring is one of the most expensive, intimidating, psychologically daunting challenges a man will face in his life. Before he makes the purchase and pops the question (the easy parts by comparison) he's got to clear a major checklist. So if your man seems to be putting it off, take comfort knowing he might just be making his way through the items below. And if that doesn't give you peace of mind, you can share this list with Mr. Procrastinator as yet another not-so-subtle reminder that it's time to put a ring on it.
Learn the Language
Nobody expects him to become a diamond expert (at least that's what we've been telling him — that's okay, right?) but your man does have some new vocabulary to learn. He'll have to at least understand the four C's — cut, clarity, color, and carat — before he has a clue what he's looking at, and look how long it took him to understand modern baseball statistics for his fantasy league.
Determine the Budget
Your man has to figure out roughly how much he should be spending, figure out how to slash the final cost without sacrificing integrity, and then save all that money before he can spend it.
Find Your Size & Style
Oh, right, and even if he has the money saved, he's got to learn your ring size and make an educated guess about what kind of style you want. Guys have been known to steal another ring, use their own finger, or even press her ring into a bar of soap and bring that to the jeweler. None of these are 100 percent idiot-proof, and all are guaranteed to get the nerves up. Choosing a style also requires a lot of advanced planning.
It's all starting to come together at this phase, but yes, it still takes time. He's got to check out different merchants' offerings, call on various shopping partners (his mother, your best friend), double- and triple-check insurance and return policies (sorry, practical isn't always romantic!), or even go window shopping with you.
There are differing schools of thought on whether a man should ask for a father's permission to marry his daughter, but some old traditions just don't die. Working up the courage to ask and working out a plan to do so without you knowing takes time and effort. And it all has to happen before he buys the ring.