*Every bride wants to enjoy her moment in the spotlight, and when a sister becomes engaged after you but plans her wedding to occur prior to yours, sparks can fly. Here, our experts tell you how to stay calm and maintain that sisterly bond. *
It's important to honor and celebrate your sister's engagement, no matter the timing. Take a deep breath and be sure you don't let the opportunity pass without gushing over her happiness. Do not launch into a screaming match over her decision as soon as you hear that she wants to tie the knot before you, even though you've already been planning your wedding for months. You'll forever regret letting your emotions dictate your behavior and immediately flying off the handle.
Now is the time to have an honest chat, just the two of you. If you don't have the level of closeness that would lead to an open conversation, spend some time thinking about the possible reasons that could be contributing factors in her decision. Of course you want to express your feelings of hurt and anger, but looking at the situation from her perspective might allow you some clarity and understanding. At that point, when you open the door to a discussion, you won't be approaching her from a selfish place of how this affects you. That might make her more open to hearing your feelings and taking them to heart so that you can simultaneously plan these weddings without driving each other mad. The most important thing to remember is that long after your reign as the brides, you'll still be sisters. Preserving that relationship, no matter its level of closeness, will have a larger payoff than making sure you're the only one standing in the spotlight.