You didn't exactly mean to (okay, maybe you did), but now that you've discovered that Tiffany's receipt in his pants pocket or little blue box at the back of the closet, you can't help but get super duper, do the happy dance, fist pump in the air, silently (or not so silently) scream at the top of your lungs excited. Holy crap, you're getting engaged! But OMG, how long will you have to wait? And what's the next step?
Well, if you've ever seen the movie Bride Wars, this is the perfect example of what not to do when you stumble across evidence of an engagement ring (or the real thing) in your home. We will, however, give her (the character, Liv) major props for refraining from opening up the box. Under no circumstances whatsoever though should you ever go blabbing to everyone you know that you're engaged already and then aggressively confront your boyfriend about said engagement ring the next day. Yeah, not cool at all. Plus, it could cause some serious problems, not to mention totally ruining the moment slash surprise he probably had planned for you. So what exactly do you do then?
Relationship expert and author April Masini recommends first putting the receipt or ring box right back where you found it. "Definitely don't run, shrieking into the kitchen where he's eating Cheerios, yelling, 'I do! I do! I will! I will!'" Contain your excitement as best you can and pull yourself together completely before greeting him if he's home. You don't want him to know anything is up, got it?
Now, when you're alone and he's not around, feel free to spill the beans to your best friend and only her (make sure she can keep those lips zipped, of course), advises Masini. That way you have someone to debrief with. "Please don't start yakking on social media about how you've got a secret. Believe me, he'll find out and his big moment will be wrecked," she warns. If you have one dear friend to talk to about it, you'll have an outlet in that friend so you won't blab where you shouldn't.
Next up: Get a manicure! "You'll want to see that diamond on a beautifully done up hand, so keep up that mani until he puts a ring on it." You may also want to go out and buy new lingerie, says Masini. "Hit the gym, and focus on grooming. Engagements tend to evoke a lot of memories, both in your minds and on Instagram. You're going to want to look your best, and this will give you something to do to burn off any anxious energy you have keeping the secret!" And while you're at it, buy some Champagne and put it in the fridge so you can have a bottle ready to pop and celebrate once you're officially a fiancée.