It's safe to say that while your wedding is certainly one of the most special days of your life, the months of wedding planning leading up to it can be, well, stressful. Between dress fittings, venue walk-throughs, hair and makeup trials and countless meetings with the caterer, florist and coordinator, it can be a lot for even the most organized and — under normal circumstances — composed bride-to-be. We spoke to Kelsey Patel, a spiritual empowerment coach, healer and intuitive thought leader, to get her mood-boosting tips to get you through anything — including planning your dream wedding. So not only will you be smiles when the big day comes, but you might actually enjoy the weeks and months leading up to it.
1. Make Time for Meditation
"No matter what meditation means to you, taking time for yourself to 'just be' is a critical part of being present for all that's happening during the wedding preparation." Patel suggests taking a walk, running a bath, listening to a guided meditation (there are some great apps for that!) or even just connecting to your breath for a few minutes. This will help calm the central nervous system and allow you to focus what really matters most.
2. Write a Love Note
Patel suggests take a few minutes to sit down in a quiet space and write a heartfelt note to yourself. This is a great way to remind yourself of who you are, how far you've come, and what's really important to you vs. what everyone else might want.
3. Set Your Intentions
Allow yourself to write out that which you intend and then let the universe take care of the rest. This is your way of letting go of the need or illusion that you can control everything. "One of my favorite exercises before my wedding day was this: I drew a heart in the center of a piece of paper and wrote the words 'I am' inside. Then I drew lines coming out from the heart and wrote all of the things and feelings I intended to have during my wedding day. I still have this piece of paper and am so grateful for how it became a part of my wedding day."
4. Let Go and Trust the Process
Give yourself full permission to let the little things go! As you plan and prepare for the big day, ask yourself — and your fiancé — what truly matters to each of you individually and as a couple. Whenever something comes up, you can simply go back to your list. And whatever does not align with your priorities, you lovingly let go. Nothing is a requirement at your wedding — except for the two of you being there and being present. The day can be whatever and however you two want it to be. Patel's advice: "Serve your own hearts and the rest will follow."
5. Make Time for Each Other
"Often times, couples get so stressed out and even disconnected during the wedding planning process that they forget to take time to be present with one and other." Patel underscores the importance of keep taking time for yourself and your partner to stay connected and deepening your love. It could be a pre-wedding getaway or an amazing date night, the point is, take the time to focus on each other and keep the wedding planning talk to a minimum.
6. Treat Yourself With Love
"I loved sweating out the stress during the months before my wedding. I also enjoyed taking naps, acupuncture, massages and journaling to connect within and give my mind permission to take care of me." Many people go on crazy diets and workout frenzies before their big day. And while Patel is a huge advocate of working out and eating healthy, she also encourages her clients to be kind to themselves leading up to their big day. "Weddings are built on love, so learn to love yourself through this process and your entire day will benefit from it."