It's a major bummer to think that 50 of marriages end in divorce. It's depressing. It's intimidating. It's discouraging. It's hard to ignore. But get this: It's just not true.
The divorce rate peaked in the 1970s and early 1980s, and it's been declining ever since. And for you guys, the divorce rate stands around 33. "If current trends continue, nearly two-thirds of marriages will never involve a divorce," according to Justin Wolfers, a University of Michigan economist. Hello, we like that statistic much better thank you very much!
Sure, some of the decline in divorce rate is because fewer people are getting married these days. There are fewer "shotgun weddings" due to unexpected buns in the ovens, too. But it's also because people are marrying later and for love. Your age at which you're getting married and level of education also play big parts. Only 11 of college-educated people who married in the early 2000s divorced by their seventh anniversary. Without a college degree, 17 divorced by seven years, according to economist Wolfers. In short, if you're younger and less educated, the divorce rate remains higher.
What can you do with this info? Stop perpetuating the scary stat that 50 of marriages end in divorce, and start feeling more confident about your marriage-to-be. Let's all spread this good, data-driven news about the future of marriages.
Allison Moir-Smith, MA, is the author of Emotionally Engaged: A Bride's Guide to Surviving the '"Happiest" Time of Her Life and has been helping brides feel happier, calmer and better prepared for marriage since 2002. She is a bridal counselor, an expert in engagement anxiety and cold feet, and the founder of Emotionally Engaged Counseling for Brides.