Decisions, decisions! There's like a million of them to make when you're planning your wedding, AKA the biggest day of your life. From what cake flavor to go with to the types of flowers you want in your bouquet, the options can seem endless and utterly overwhelming. So if you're feeling stressed out and stuck in total procrastination mode because you have absolutely no idea where to even begin, put these tips to the test to start knocking things off your to-do list like it's your job (since, you know, it kind of is!).
1. Practice the power of 3s
Limit your decision making process to choosing between three options only, advises New York based relationship and etiquette expert and author April Masini. For example, only call three photographers, three bands and three caterers. "When you start expanding your possibilities into the double digits, you're cruising for misery," she warns. "There are enough wedding vendors in life that you could meet with a different one every day for a year so cut the crazy, and pick three, then go from there!"
2. Don't ask for opinions
Unless you want to open a can of warms, that is, cautions wedding planner and designer Joyce Scardina Becker of Events of Distinction. Oftentimes, multiple opinions will only make you more confused so trust your gut or have one or two people max weigh in.
3. Hire a wedding planner
Speaking of opinions, the best hack for an indecisive bride is to bring an experienced wedding planner on board. "The number one value in hiring a planner is that we have everything in our back pockets," points out bridal and luxury lifestyle expert Alexa Kritis of Long Aisle Events + Design. "We've already spent a ton of time and energy researching and building relationships with the top vendors, staying up to date on trends and have planned many, many weddings so we can help you make the best decisions and we're there for you every step of the way."
4. Get inspired by your surroundings
Having a tough time nailing down your color scheme and/or overall design? Wedding planning pro Robert Gundrey of Wente Vineyards in Livermore, CA, says he always tells brides to try this hack: "Look around your house and in your closet. Now, what are the most prominent colors and styles that you see there?" Whatever they may be, he suggests basing your wedding colors and décor off of that. Ultimately, it's about staying true to who you are and this is such a quick and easy way to do that.
5. Stay off Pinterest
And if you absolutely must Pin, Kritis recommends creating one board, putting the pictures into a file on your computer and then referencing only those photos in the future. "You can use these images to show to your florist, photographer, planner, etc."
6. Let your wedding dress guide you
When working with indecisive brides, Alaska-based planner Rebecca Kopperud, owner of La Boum Events, often encourages them to purchase their wedding dress first. Sometimes people aren't sure if they're having a formal or casual wedding and are overwhelmed by all the options, she notes. "By shopping and selecting a dress first, the dress can help give some direction on the bride's taste. For example, if you pick a dress draped in lace and match it with cowboy boots, you know you're looking for something more casual than if you select a heavy satin ball gown with long sleeves that would be better suited to a formal winter wedding."