The moment a couple announces their engagement, friends, family, and even coworkers immediately assume an invitation is imminent. However, the size of your venue and desired intimacy of your wedding largely determine the length of the guest list. So how does one tell a coworker they simply didn't make the cut? Our etiquette experts weigh in on informing a fellow employee that they may not witness the wedding.
Honesty is always the best policy, especially if the reason your coworker won't be attending your wedding is because you have chosen not to invite any colleagues, or decided to keep the ceremony and reception list to family only. In either circumstance, gently explain to your coworker that you have decided to limit your list to immediate family and close friends only. When elucidating the situation to your coworker, be sure to emphasize that the exclusion is not a choice that reflects your opinion of them, but rather a decision to leave work out of a family affair. No colleague will begrudge you choosing to host a small celebration.
If your reason for excluding your coworker is more personal, keep discussion of your nuptials to a minimum during work hours. If your colleague continues to inquire about the wedding, a simple response such as, "We're keeping the wedding small, just my fiancé, myself, and our families," will put an end to any further questioning.