Though you know your fiancé well enough to spend your life by his side, you may learn more about him than you expected through planning your wedding. And a simple debate of band versus DJ may become a sudden source of contention. How do you compromise when your fiancé's musical taste clashes with your own? Our etiquette experts weigh in.
Before moving any further in the music selection process, set up a date with your fiancé to discuss each of your preferences. Taking the time to understand why a DJ is on your fiancé's wish list and explaining your own reasoning for a wedding band will help clarify your reasoning. Does your fiancé have a taste for diverse genres and hope to hear certain tunes at your nuptials? Do you love the romanticism of live entertainment? Discussing your logic will help diffuse the situation.
Next, think about what each of you is willing to compromise for the big day. Your fiancé might be satisfied with a live band if he has a hand in selecting the genre they play and which songs they include in their set. In addition, your very own iPod can serve as a pitch-perfectly personalized DJ in the wee hours after a live band has finished their performance. On the other hand, a DJ might be a suitable solution if you have musical friends who could be convinced to perform during the reception. Finally, take a look at your wedding budget. Live bands are a greater financial commitment than a DJ, so if your budget is tight, a DJ could be the ideal solution.