Somewhere between getting engaged and tying the knot lies the most anticipated pre-wedding ritual: the bachelorette party! It’s a milestone that can’t be missed, whether you’re hoping for something totally relaxing and low-key or a wild night out on the town. The bachelorette party is usually planned by the maid of honor or bridesmaids, but can someone who isn’t in the bridal party take the reins instead? We asked our experts to weigh in.
There’s no hard-and-fast rule stating that the bachelorette party must be planned by a bridesmaid, so feel free to ask any friend you please to help plan (or even plan it yourself!). Whether your maid of honor is too young to take the lead or you’ve decided to skip the bridal party altogether, anyone who loves the bride (and will be attending the bachelorette party, of course) can be the one to do the planning.
Of course, if you do have bridesmaids but are still turning the responsibility over to someone else, be careful to make sure feelings aren’t hurt. Ask the person who is planning to keep your bridal party in the loop when it comes to plans, and even invite your ‘maids to help out with anything from making reservations to ordering the ever-important bachelorette sash and party props. She might be a great local expert, which can be helpful if you’re heading to a city she’s familiar with but you’ve never been to before. Just make sure your bridal party doesn’t feel like they’re being replaced in any way.
A great way to find a balance is to have your maid of honor and your friend split the responsibilities, with your MOH serving as the point of contact for all guests involved and your friend helping take on some of the planning responsibilities. After all, wrangling a group of friends for a trip (or even just a night out!) can be a time-consuming proposition, and a little extra help can’t hurt!