Owner of Weddings in Vieques, a destination-wedding planning company off the coast of Puerto Rico, Sandy Malone has helped countless couples plan their big day since 2007. Here, she discusses why you should be careful before announcing your wedding news during the holidays.
While a new engagement may be the first thing you want to share with the world on a holiday, there can be feelings and politics involved that you want to consider before you make the big announcement. To you both, it feels like the only important thing going on in your world is the fact that you've gotten engaged. But to everybody that you're sharing the holiday with, it's still Hanukkah or Christmas or New Year's Eve too, not just the day somebody popped the question.
There's nothing wrong about announcing your engagement on a holiday at a family celebration if you're relatively certain that everybody in attendance will be happy about the news. If you've had controversy about your relationship, or family occasions involving alcohol usually turn out to be WWE rumbles even on holidays, you might consider holding off on sharing for a better time. The last thing in the entire world a bride and groom need when they announce their engagement is negativity — avoid it at all costs.
Consider your audience before you make the big announcement. Either do it or don't — you can't tell one of your sisters but not the other and expect the secret to stay a secret for more than five minutes. Those who love you and are excited for you will be popping champagne and toasting before you know it. If you were being sneaky for a reason, it's going to backfire. Much better to plan a special gathering a day or so later with the folks who will share your happiness and announce the big decision to commit then.
The most important thing is that you love each other and have made this decision to spend your lives together. Sure, it might be fun to be the center of attention with all your family there when you make a holiday announcement, but that's not your engagement party. It's still another holiday to everybody else, even when they're happy for you.