- Question:
- Do we have to have an engagement party? Our parents are insisting!
- Answer:
You aren't required to have an engagement party, but it isn't a bad idea. Often it's the perfect opportunity to introduce parents and attendants to each other before the wedding. And don't think you're doomed to a stuffy cocktail party. Anything goes when it comes to engagement parties—from backyard barbecues to clam bakes, so make it as laid-back as you want.

- This content originally appeared in Modern Bride magazine.
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