- Question:
I want a bachelorette weekend in Vegas, but the bridesmaids say they can’t afford it. How do I get them to pony up?
- Answer:
First, this isn't your event to plan—your maid of honor and bridesmaids do that. Second, unless that kind of bachelorette party is routine in your crowd, you're out of line. What you can do is suggest a Vegas-style "getaway" closer to home. You could book a couple of local hotel rooms, get dressed up, rent a limo and go out for drinks and dinner. Vegas is also great for a honeymoon, so put your chips in that basket instead.

- This content originally appeared in Brides magazine.
- Can I invite the same friends to more than one shower?
- Should my sisters plan my shower?
- Can the groom's dad attend the bachelor party?
- Should we invite out-of-town family to the shower?
- Can I invite male friends to my bridal shower?
- Can I ask the best man to organize a bachelor party for my fiancé?
- Do I have to open gifts at the shower?
- Can I ask my best friend to change the plans for my bachelorette party?
- Should all of the bridesmaids attend the bachelorette party?
- When should I host my bridesmaids' lunch?
- Should we have an engagement party?
- How formal is rehearsal dinner dress?
- Can a mother-in-law host a shower?
- Are rehearsal dinners mandatory?
Submit Your Own Etiquette Question
Have an etiquette question you'd like our editors to answer?
- Who pays for the shower?
- Do guests expect a morning-after brunch?
- Can I ask shower guests to write their names and addresses down to help me write the thank-you notes?
- Must grandparents be invited to the rehearsal dinner?
- Can I invite friends to a shower but not the wedding?
- Should my fiancé treat his groomsmen to a pre-wedding baseball game and dinner?
- How do I tell my fiancé that I'm unhappy with his bachelor party plans?
- Can I plan my own bachelorette party?
- Must my shower include the groom's sisters and mother?
- What's a bridal luncheon?
- Can I host my own shower?
- How can I convince my bridesmaids to pay for a bachelorette weekend?
- Must all female guests get shower invites?
- Is a bridesmaids' luncheon a must?
- Who pays for the bachelorette party?
- Do we have to invite my sister's boyfriend to the rehearsal dinner?
- Should I invite my bridesmaids to all of my showers?










