Don't let logistics get in the way of your dream destination wedding. Our wedding etiquette experts weigh in on how to plan a drama-free getaway.

How do we tell guests we aren't paying for their hotel rooms?

Start by including hotel information in your save-the-dates, with your invitations and on your wedding website, says Peggy Post, an etiquette expert from the Burlington, VT-based Emily Post Institute. Wording such as, "A block of rooms with various rates is being held under the Smith/Jones wedding" makes it pretty clear that you're not taking care of hotel costs. This should do the trick for guests, but it can get a little dicey with your bridal party, and that's often where the confusion happens. "It's really important to be clear with attendants on who's paying for what, since the guidelines continue to change," notes Post. If you sense the potential for a misunderstanding, try saying something like: "We're not able to pay for your accommodations, but we've researched a lot of places and hope we've found some that fit within your price range." (It's important to offer different price points because it shows you're trying to make your wedding affordable to them.) To end the conversation on an upbeat note, Post suggests a couple of closers. Tell your attendants, "We'll treat you to some great meals there!" or, "And of course, the fact that you're coming is absolutely your wedding gift to us."

Photo: Michael Simon Wedding Photography

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