Apr 2, 2009 1:01 AM

I've been wearing a promise ring on my left hand for years (since we were teens), but now that we are into our twenties, people often mistake it for an engagement risk. I sometimes feel like a broken record explaining it! Anyone else feel like this too? Did you stop wearing it when you were close to getting engaged, or switch it to the right hand? (I tried that before, but it felt funny after so many years). How did your BF react (if he noticed at all)?

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Apr 2, 2009 7:37 AM in response to: Tofu

I wore a promise ring for 4 years. I loved my ring! Some people did think it was an engagement ring but all I had to tell them was that it was a promise ring and they understood. I wore my ring up until I got my engagement ring.
                              

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Apr 2, 2009 5:58 PM in response to: ashes2

I've had my promise ring for a little over 6 years. Once we got engaged (about 2 1/2 years ago), I moved the promise ring to my right hand ring finger. It felt weird at first since I had worn it for so long on my left hand, but I got used to it. At first I thought I would just put it away for safe keeping after getting engaged, but my FH was a little disappointed when I wasn't wearing it, so I've worn it since he mentioned something.

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Apr 2, 2009 6:59 PM in response to: Tofu

I love my promise ring.. I never took it off besides in the shower and when we went to Disney Land and we rode on rollercoaster.. When i got my e-ring i switched my promise ring to my right hand.. Now neither one of my rings come off..

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Apr 3, 2009 12:15 AM in response to: PrincessDee

"I wouldn't have felt silly, but I would probably have wished it was an engagement ring before long."

Maybe that's part of it actually. I hadn't really thought about it that way before.

"Are you and your bf considering getting engaged?"

Yes, we are. We've known for years we would, but in the last few weeks have started the actual conversations that lead up to it (as opposed to fuzzy ideas about the future that most couples have at some point prior to engagement). I found this site while trying to learn about rings. He told me tonight that due to debt and other financial considerations (he only just started his career a few weeks ago), it will be a couple of months until he can actually propose. While I obviously wish for sooner, if it's in 2009 I think I'll survive!

"Since you've had it for years, it might be important to him, or at least make him feel weird if you stop wearing it and he doesn't know why."

I think he would know why. But he might feel pressured, and when he isn't buying a ring due to financial reasons I don't feel that it's right to try and pressure him or make him feel badly about not getting me one sooner. Ah well... starting a marriage debt-free is not a bad deal!

Maybe I will just take it off in the contexts that make me feel a little silly. This summer I will be working in an office and don't really want to sound childish by saying that I have a promise ring.... So I can take it off for the day and wear it on the weekends. Amazing how writing out ideas makes them so much clearer!

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Apr 3, 2009 5:09 PM in response to: Tofu

I guess I don't understand why you'd feel silly wearing it or even explaining what it is. Maybe it's lost it's meaning to you? I'd just talk to your guy about it and your feelings and sees what he says. I wore my promise ring until we got my e-ring. I never got tired of telling people what it was if they asked.

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Apr 4, 2009 11:26 AM in response to: Tofu

I usually figure out more about how I feel by talking to people and/or writing, so I understand how that goes. I think it's very considerate of you to not want to pressure him. It sounds like you're really ready to be engaged. It's so hard to be patient...at least for me. I'm lucky that I didn't have to wait long. Lol. I don't think I'd have done too well with it. I hope your proposal isn't too far in the future. It's rough that you guys have to wait for financial reasons. Wearing it on weekends seems like a good plan, especially if that's when you spend most of your time with your bf.

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Apr 5, 2009 11:11 PM in response to: Tofu

Dear Tofu,

It does not matter what other people think. What matters is what YOU think.

Sounds like you are a bit uncomfortable about wearing a promise ring. You have options. Don't wear it. Switch it to your right hand.

Whatever you do, communicate your reasoning to your boyfriend. That way he'll have the straight story should anyone ask him about it.

"So, Bubba, I noticed Daisy Mae is wearing her promise ring on her right hand."
"She's a bit tired of people asking if it is an engagement ring, but still wants to wear it."

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