I was going to go with Ivory or Off white since I have a child, even though I've never been married before... but, DF's shirt is white (getting married on the beach) and I don't want us to have on 2 different shades. What are your opinions on wearing white? I'm not concerned about etiquette, per se, more about looking stupid wearing white, when my dd is going to be in the wedding and it's obvious I'm not virginal!!! TIA for any input, thoughts and opinions!!