A Reproposal or Not?????

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Blueeyebutterfly Posts : 4 Registered: 5/27/09
A Reproposal or Not?????
Posted: May 27, 2009 3:46 AM

Hi, we were engaged in november 2008, we had the engagement party, bought all kind of things for the wedding, booked everything....basically it was all done. Then we had some minor issues come up mainly with the financial aspect of it and maybe we both had cold feet...with this being said, we both mutually agreed to call off the wedding and the engagement for awhile. We have still been together happily since we called it off. We called it off the first week of April it has now been almost 2 months and we have realized that we want to go ahead with all our plans...But the question is and it sounds stupid but should he repropse?? Can we use the same ring? We are not sure where to go from here, do we put the ring back on and be engaged as if nothing happened or does he repropose and give me the ring or another ring all over again???????? Help!!! How do you get re-engaged lol ??????


CatStandish Posts : 2,766 Registered: 6/20/08
Re: A Reproposal or Not?????
Posted: May 27, 2009 8:05 AM Go to message in response to: Blueeyebutterfly

the simple answer is: it is YOUR relationship. You decide the rules. You can use the same ring. If you want him to ask again so you can answer, you can. If you want to discuss it and you decide to put it back on, then that is what you do.



CoutureBride27 Posts : 130 Registered: 5/5/09
Re: A Reproposal or Not?????
Posted: May 27, 2009 9:05 AM Go to message in response to: Blueeyebutterfly


You've already had an engagement party, so I would really suggest that you don't officially get engaged again, I personally don't think it would be the right thing to do. However, seeing that you've had personal issues, perhaps just celebrate the two of you, go out for dinner or do something nice you both enjoy. And then send out save-the-date cards, this will officially let people know that the wedding is back on, you don't need to explain to others that you've gotten "re-engaged : ) " perhaps just break the news to those closest to you i.e. parents, close family and friends.

I see no need to get another engagement ring, if it's like mine a lot of thought, time and money has gone into buying the ring, so if you like it I'd just wear the same one.

Good luck, I hope it all works out for you!

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EarlLyan1082 Posts : 1 Registered: 5/11/09
Re: A Reproposal or Not?????
Posted: May 27, 2009 10:02 AM Go to message in response to: Blueeyebutterfly

yeah i agree...the decision maker is yourRelationship ...however, i think that if you would want to 'refeel' the romance of the proposal, or the ring, just ask him...for me it really does not matter if you use the same ring or not but if you think having a new ring would make it more sweet then you should get one... do what your hearts tell you.... good luck....

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ArtBride Posts : 4,838 Registered: 5/9/07
Re: A Reproposal or Not?????
Posted: May 28, 2009 3:49 PM Go to message in response to: Blueeyebutterfly

Gah - I wouldn't even THINK of getting another ring! Really, you've only been 'unengaged' for a month or two...why get another ring?

And unless you made a big deal about breaking your engagement, I don't see any reason to make a big deal about announcing your 'reengagement'. I'd mention it to your closest family and friends, but everybody else will figure it out when they get a wedding invitation from you. In fact, most people probably won't even remember that you got 'unengaged' for a month. I doubt I would remember, unless you were a very close friend of mine that I saw on a daily basis. And those who do remember will just shrug it off, thinking, 'Hmm, I remember something about them calling off the wedding. Looks like they worked that out - good!'

As for the 'reproposal,' do whatever you want. If you feel like a new proposal will start the new engagement off on the right foot, go for it. If that's not important to you, don't.

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CaribbeanBride08 Posts : 1,474 Registered: 6/13/07
Re: A Reproposal or Not?????
Posted: May 28, 2009 4:15 PM Go to message in response to: ArtBride

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As for the reproposal, I agree with everything Art said!

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kennysoldwife Posts : 3,859 Registered: 4/28/07
Re: A Reproposal or Not?????
Posted: May 28, 2009 4:37 PM Go to message in response to: CaribbeanBride08

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