I agree with Myra. THe man is a FATHER for Christs Sakes. Grow up and act like one. Move out of your parents house ...thats step one. And if theyve been together FIVE years, what the hell is he waiting for? Hes got the commitment part.... a child. A family. Maybe he thinks as long as he doesnt make it "official"... he isnt REALLY commited. This dude needs to grow up FAST.
I agree with Kelly and Myra. Look at it from his perspective: he gets sex from your cousin whenever he wants, gets to play daddy whenever he wants, lives in a house that he doesn't have to pay for, gets food that he doesn't have to buy or cook, and he presumably gets housekeeping from Mom and Dad without having to do a damn thing for it.
My DH was living with his mom when we met and started dating. He was 16, I was 19. When I got pregnant at 20 (he was 17), my DH went out that day, got a job, and saved up enough for us to get our own place away from family. At 17, my DH was enough of a man to figure out that fathers participate in emotionally, physically, and financially supporting his kids and the woman who made them. This guy is a loser, and your cousin shouldn't waste anymore time with him. He will never commit; he will continue to string her along with promises of a wedding to keep her, but he will never follow through. I've known many types just like him.
Thanks ladies for all your advice I just hope that things work out for her. I think she's going to sit down and have a heart to heart with him and then I guess we will see where things go. I will keep you updated. Thanks again for your advice. susan