Need Wording Help?

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HeatherandBryan Posts : 10 Registered: 8/19/07
Re: Need Wording Help?
Posted: Jul 23, 2008 5:55 PM Go to message in response to: Chad

Sorry to bother you, but I have one question.  I want my invitation to be informal without Mr. and Mrs.  I just need to know how to write the groom's parents' names since they are divorced.  I want to put "groom's name, son of..... " but have no idea how to do this.  Groom's name...Bryan M.  Parents name M. M. and D. M.  Thanks for your help.  Hope it's not confusing.

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Chad Posts : 637 Registered: 10/3/06
Re: Need Wording Help?
Posted: Jul 24, 2008 1:52 PM Go to message in response to: HeatherandBryan

Bryan Middle Last

son of
Mom Last
Dad Last


Chad ~ 11.19.05

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futuremrsbarry Posts : 1 Registered: 1/27/08
Re: Need Wording Help?
Posted: Jul 31, 2008 7:01 PM Go to message in response to: Chad

Chad,

I'm having trouble on how to place the parents in wording of the invitations. I know how to word everything else except where to list the parents, it's very important to us to not say "together with their parents". We are having the wedding in the groom's hometown, where his parents currently live, so my (divorced ) parents will have to travel there. My father and step-mother and the grooms parents are paying but I need to include my mother and step-father as well. I was thinking of...

Mr. and Mrs. Father of the Bride

Mr. and Mrs. Step-Father of the Bride

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Bride First Middle Last

 to

Groom First Middle Last

son of Mr. and Mrs. Father on the Groom 

 

is it disrespectful to put the grooms parents at the bottom even though they are paying the most?

Thank you so much for any help!! 

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mimmerfa Posts : 8 Registered: 5/21/08
Re: Need Wording Help?
Posted: Jul 31, 2008 7:17 PM Go to message in response to: Chad

1. Hosts names? Ronald and Nancy (last name)
2. Preferred name format? ("Mr. and Mrs. His Name" OR "Her and His Name") Mr. and Mrs. His name
3. Is the wedding in a Church or on consecrated ground? yes, church
4. Are you having a Nuptial Mass? Do you want it mentioned? yes, yes
5. Are you a non-Christian religion? Which one? n/a
6. Relationship of hosts to you/groom? Bride's parents
7. If groom’s parents are not hosting, do you want to list them as “son of...”? yes
8. Groom’s parents’ names? Carl and Mary (last name) AND Nick and Julie (last name)
9. Date AND Time November 7, 2009 -- 2 pm
10. Ceremony Venue Name St. Johns
11. Ceremony City, State M, Wisconsin
12. Is the reception in the same place? no
13. If not, Reception Venue Name Holiday Inn
14. Type of reception? (Dessert, Lunch, Hors d’oeuvres, Dinner) dinner
15. Reception City, State M, WI
16. Will the reception (including cocktails) happen within an hour of the end of the ceremony? If no, list the time. yes
17. Do you need guests to choose a meal? (if no, skip 18 and 19) no
18. Are you inviting children?
19. Is there a child's meal choice?
20. Are you doing A/B list? no

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Chad Posts : 637 Registered: 10/3/06
Re: Need Wording Help?
Posted: Aug 1, 2008 12:37 PM Go to message in response to: futuremrsbarry

Hosting isn't the same as paying. Paying is forking over money. Hosting is a social obligation to care for guests. Hosts are listed, not financiers. Invitations aren't invoices.  Now if you consider "paying" to be the same as "hosting" their his parents names should be at the top below your Dad's.

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Chad Posts : 637 Registered: 10/3/06
Re: Need Wording Help?
Posted: Aug 1, 2008 12:44 PM Go to message in response to: mimmerfa

Mr. and Mrs. Ronald Regan

request the honour of your presence
at the Nuptial Mass uniting their daughter

Bride MIddle
and
Groom Middle Last

son of
Mr. and Mrs. Carl Rove
Mr. and Mrs. Nicholas Clause
in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony

Saturday, the seventh of November
two thousand nine
two o'clock

Saint John's Full Name
Madison, Wisconsin

Dinner Reception
Holiday Inn

R.S.V.P. by the x of Month


You don't need a reception card.  If you decide to use one, delete the reception info and use:

Dinner Reception
Holiday Inn
Madison, Wisconsin


You also don't need a response card to get a headcount.  The wording above will do that.  However, if you choose to use one, delete the response request (last line) from above and use:

R.S.V.P. by the x of Ymonth

M ____________________

_ accepts _ declines



You can use the Response/Mailing formula: http://tinyurl.com/2dqqxy and a calendar. You can also email me for a spreadsheet that'll do the calculations for you. two guys in love at gmail dot com




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Jana1013 Posts : 7 Registered: 7/31/08
Re: Need Wording Help?
Posted: Aug 5, 2008 1:39 PM Go to message in response to: Chad

Thank you for taking the time to answer all of the questions.  It's really wonderful. 

My question is this.  Our wedding will be in the morning and in a synagogue.  While it's not formal, it is going to be a traditional ceremony and definately has some level of formality.  Some of our family members, however, equate day time wedding as automatically informal, even though that's not always the case.  How can I let them know that it's a semi-formal event while not seeming rude?  Is there a way to include this in the invitations?

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cKr2008 Posts : 54 Registered: 3/19/08
Re: Need Wording Help?
Posted: Aug 5, 2008 4:04 PM Go to message in response to: Chad

I have a question in regard to addressing the wedding invitations.  I apologize if this has been addressed before.  I glanced through the previous posts, but must not have caught it. 

What is the proper wording/title for a widow?  What about a divorced woman who kept her married name?

Thanks!


 

 

"Once in a while, right in the middle of an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale."

Wink

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2KS Posts : 20 Registered: 1/23/08
Re: Need Wording Help?
Posted: Aug 5, 2008 7:24 PM Go to message in response to: cKr2008

Is 5pm or 5:30pm considered to be in the afternoon or in the evening when I am wording it in the invitaion?

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Chad Posts : 637 Registered: 10/3/06
Re: Need Wording Help?
Posted: Aug 5, 2008 7:29 PM Go to message in response to: Jana1013

With invitations, your wording is either informal or formal.  I always suggest you lean towards MORE formal than less.  I suggest you word them formally and start spreading word of mouth that it's not "bigtime formal".  Also, the style of the invitation will help convey less formality.

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Chad Posts : 637 Registered: 10/3/06
Re: Need Wording Help?
Posted: Aug 5, 2008 7:30 PM Go to message in response to: cKr2008

Widow: Mrs. His Name  However, you should ask her if at all possible.  Many who've been widowed a while prefer Mrs. Her Name and these days, that's not a horrible thing to just do.  But ask if you can.

 

Divorced: Ms. Her Name



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Chad Posts : 637 Registered: 10/3/06
Re: Need Wording Help?
Posted: Aug 5, 2008 7:31 PM Go to message in response to: 2KS

5:30 is afternoon.  However, you don't need the phrase "in the afternoon".  That qualifying phrase is used only when the time could be either AM or PM.  You can't logically mean a 5:30 AM wedding, so you don't use it for PM.  If you DID mean 5:30 AM, you'd be insane and need medication.  But, you'd also need to use "in the morning" since most folks will see 5:30 as PM.

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Jana1013 Posts : 7 Registered: 7/31/08
Re: Need Wording Help?
Posted: Aug 5, 2008 8:18 PM Go to message in response to: Chad

Excellent.  Thank you very much. Smile

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2KS Posts : 20 Registered: 1/23/08
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Posted: Aug 5, 2008 9:05 PM Go to message in response to: Jana1013

Hey, thanks for the help.  Just wondering when does it become evening?  At 6? 

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Chad Posts : 637 Registered: 10/3/06
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Posted: Aug 6, 2008 5:25 PM Go to message in response to: 2KS

6p begins evening, but even then you don't need the "in the evening" phrase since 6 am weddings aren't common.

Chad ~ 11.19.05

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