i'm probably going to sound bratty and selfish... but here goes.
my boyfriend and i have been talking about getting married for quite some time now and when we made the decision to get an apartment together a few months ago it was with the understanding that an engagement would soon follow (i never wanted to live together before an engagement and he would never get engaged without living with someone so i compromised, although it was much more of a sacrifice). and i know he's been out ring shopping but he always says that he doesn't have the money right now.
well, we set a limit on Christmas presents since we just got our new place so even though i was hoping a little (or maybe a lot, haha) i wasn't surprised when i didn't get a ring. i guess i just thought that he really didn't have the money like he always said.
BUT, today he went out and bought a 15 hundred dollar TV (a frickin TV?!) AND went and picked up a new iPhone!!!! so, in total, he spent more than 2 grand today. and i haven't said a word. we've always said that as long as we can pay our bills and save what we need to, the rest is ours to spend as we wish.
i really don't think i should be upset about this but to be honest, it REALLY hurt my feelings. it really makes me feel like a t.v. and stupid phone are more important to him than making me his fiance and future wife.
i look at that stupid tv and it makes me want to cry. 
am i being a huge brat or should i say something to him?
UPDATE:
i decided not to say anything and he brought it up. he was really nice about it and basically said that it wasn't time yet and that he already has his plan it's just not ready yet. so that was fine...
and then new years came... ladies, i really screwed up and i don't know how to make it up to him. but, what led to what happend: there's part of me that's worried that he's just stalling and doesn't actually want this to happen (it's a VERY SMALL part but i do admit to that insecurity).
so... new years+alcohol+no engagement+insecurities=stupid me.
at like 3 in the morning i started crying my eyes out and pretty much told him that i thought he was stalling and didn't want to marry me. needless to say, i REALLY hurt his feelings and i feel like a complete idiot...
any ideas on how to make it up to him? i just want him to know that i love him so much and i don't want him to feel like he's letting me down at all by waiting (what he's waiting for, i have no idea). geez, i really feel awful. =(
UPDATE AGAIN:
i am being patient, things felt like they were going smoothly between us until.... he came home with a ps3 and a bunch of other CRAP that totalled about another grand. so, a week and a half, 3 THOUSAND DOLLARS, no ring, and a lot of hurt feelings later- i don't even want to look at him. and it's not about the ring anymore... i'm just mad that he lies. he says he doesn't have money but he blows over 3 grand in less than 2 weeks on TOYS for himself. if he doesn't want to get engaged then he should just say so- i'd rather hear that he's not ready yet. because if it was personal, i could understand. if it was that he wasn't ready,i could understand. but i don't understand and can't tolerate being lied to. and there's no justification for saying you don't have money and then spending almost 3 grand on toys for yourself... other than he's lying about money being the issue.
and we talked after the tv and stupid phone and i thought he understood and was sympathetic to how i felt... obviously, it either didn't sink in or didn't matter that much. this is the first big issue we've had since we moved in together and it's the first time that i really don't wanna go home after work today =( i know i have to, but i REALLY don't want to go and sit there while he puts all of that new crap together... as if i'm not upset enough already.
ok ladies, any thoughts???
Message was edited by: wannabemrsbenham
