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I HATE MY ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!

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midget Posts : 2 Registered: 12/12/07
I HATE MY ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!
Posted: Dec 12, 2007 12:51 PM

My man is a wonderful guy but I hate my engagement ring!  It is horrible!!!  Everything I said I didn't want he did! I wanted square, he bought round.  I wanted antique he bought me modern! I begged for cheap he went to Tiffany's!  I HATE TIFFANY'S!  They are too plain!  No style!  What do I do??????????  How do I tell him??? HELP ME@!!!!!!



Jerseygal8785 Posts : 144 Registered: 12/5/06
Re: I HATE MY ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!
Posted: Dec 12, 2007 1:27 PM Go to message in response to: midget

Does the symbolism matter to you?  The ring I receieved is not exactly what i wanted either however its beautiful and i love the meaning behind it.  I'm sure he went to lengths to get it for you.  The only way you can get around returning this one and getting another is if he had someone help him do it.  if he picked it out all by himself then you need to stick with it but say his mom helped him - you can jokingly say something like you can tell it is your moms taste type of thing - but honestly i think even if my ring was ugly i would love it and keep it because it was our milestone to get married! good luck!

My other thought is that a wedding bank changes teh look of engagement rings . . .get a wedding band with square stones and it may look more square and so on . . try some bands on before you say you want a different ring.



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midget Posts : 2 Registered: 12/12/07
Re: I HATE MY ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!
Posted: Dec 12, 2007 1:32 PM Go to message in response to: Jerseygal8785

His best friend helped him pick it out. I just wish he had listened to me. It hurts that all we had talked about regarding this engagement was thrown out the window! But, I love him and will suck it up and wear it proudly!



S2BMrsO Posts : 25 Registered: 12/11/07
Re: I HATE MY ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!
Posted: Dec 12, 2007 1:37 PM Go to message in response to: midget

Wow... its not every day you tell a man that you want a cheap ring and he up and decides to go to Tiffanys!! You're a lucky woman! Now.. that aside (lol), have you told him how you felt? Did he do this because he wanted what he got?

I personally think that choosing a ring should be a joint decision. This is something you're going to be wearing for the rest of your life! Sure, its not as surprising or romantic, but the whole idea of not knowing when he'll propose or how is what is exciting. Maybe you could bring something like that up to him?? I think its important you like your ring. Like I said, you're going to be wearing it for the rest of your life!!



DoubleGreen Posts : 285 Registered: 8/12/07
Re: I HATE MY ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!
Posted: Dec 12, 2007 1:43 PM Go to message in response to: S2BMrsO

LMAO

I love you Midget!


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Re: I HATE MY ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!
Posted: Dec 12, 2007 1:50 PM Go to message in response to: midget

I have to say that a Tiffanys ring is many girls dream ring, so your husband may have asked around and thought you wouldn't have dreamt of asking for it.  They're pricey so he probably thought he was doing the right thing by going there.  They do have beautiful wedding bands there that might accompany it to bring it to something you like.  Otherwise if it was me, I personally wouldn't say anything, but that's just my personality.  My husband picked out my ring and it was that and the symbolism behind it that I love it.


UltimatePink Posts : 367 Registered: 10/15/07
Re: I HATE MY ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!
Posted: Dec 14, 2007 11:21 AM Go to message in response to: midget

Hi midget, i have to agree with you that I'm not in love with Tiffany's. The traditional Tiffany's meant so much more back then and their really nice stuff is too ridiculously priced. I am much more in antique and filigree.

Right off the bat, my FH knew that I'm a jewelry fanatic and I hate surprises. He did follow my instructions and we did pick out the ring together.

Different girls have different tastes! Just think, that Tiffany's ring will make a lovely heirloom piece one day.

(oh yea. In the most recent edition of Modern Bride magazine, there was a piece on girls who went thru the ring thing of "I hate it", "it's too big", "it's too small", etc. It was pretty interesting)


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Re: I HATE MY ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!
Posted: Dec 19, 2007 1:59 PM Go to message in response to: midget

Hey midget, I'll trade you the $12 pink CZ ring my FH proposed to me with for your hated Tiffany's ring. 

Tongue out

On second thought, pink is my favorite color and the ring symbolizes our promise to marry each other so I wouldn't be able to use your ring.

If you really really really dislike your ring I guess you should be honest with FH that it isn't your style.  Maybe you can have the stone exchanged?  I'm at a loss here.

"If we weren't all crazy we would go insane"  ~Jimmy Buffett



Sugarpuddin911 Posts : 50 Registered: 4/18/07
Re: I HATE MY ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!
Posted: Dec 19, 2007 2:10 PM Go to message in response to: midget

is it possible when you go to get your wedding bands you can get something a little more ornate and something fashioned to be on both sides of the ring to make it look more antique??


Bling3 Posts : 54 Registered: 12/18/07
Re: I HATE MY ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!
Posted: Dec 26, 2007 4:28 PM Go to message in response to: Sugarpuddin911

When my fiance and I went looking at engagement rings I was looking for inexpensive, white gold, and a 1/2 ct. When I got the ring he got me expensive, platinum, 1.5 ct. Jeff Cooper design.

It was not what I wanted but it is what he picked out and that to me had more meaning then me picking out my own ring. Every day I look at it and appreciate the man he is and know that he is mine forever.

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Re: I HATE MY ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!
Posted: Jan 2, 2008 4:07 PM Go to message in response to: Bling3

Personally, I would sit him down and tell him to run. Run far, run fast. 

Most women would be elated to know the man they love is wanting to spend the rest of their lives with them, but instead you are on a website telling people you HATE what he spent his hard earned $ and put his heart into?

Im sorry to sound harsh, but not to sound as if an engagement is trivial, but be honored, and love it as much as you love him, or, tell him to run. 



MsDenuninani Posts : 3,962 Registered: 3/16/07
Re: I HATE MY ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!
Posted: Jan 2, 2008 4:24 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

Eh, I disagree Cantwait2wed.

Yes, it's a symbol of love, and something he thought to buy you, but the bride is the person who will be wearing it for the rest of her life.  I mean, if it were a shirt that he had given her that she now has to wear for the rest of her life, it would be perfectly reasonable for her to exchange it for a shirt that she actually liked - even if he spent a lot of time picking it out.

I mean, he's not the one who has to wear it.  So she should be able to pick out something else. 


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Bling3 Posts : 54 Registered: 12/18/07
Re: I HATE MY ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!
Posted: Jan 3, 2008 1:51 PM Go to message in response to: MsDenuninani

I agree with Cantwait2wed to a degree.

An engagement ring is supose to be a symbol of his love. If he is purchasing an engagement ring for her he should know what she wants. It is a symbol and a gift. I could see if it is really ugly but if you want to exchange it because of the amoutn he spent or the brand name remember that he did it thinking that he wanted the best for you. If he bought the ring at Tiffany's I doubt you can reutrn it and go somewhere else. You would have to exchange it for another Tiffany ring.


UltimatePink Posts : 367 Registered: 10/15/07
Re: I HATE MY ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!
Posted: Jan 4, 2008 11:26 AM Go to message in response to: MsDenuninani

Let's put it plainly. Sometimes guys just don't know. They buy into the commericialism of it all.

In a way, a ring is symbolic because it shows that "you're engaged" and not available. In other countries, it's just known and you don't even need a ring. And yes, I agree that it's something you have to wear for the rest of your life, you should like the ring. Guys should realize that sometimes, they're not the best judge when it comes to what you like.

And in fact, I wouldn't have cared whether or not he proposed with a diamond ring or not. I could go without one. I don't see it as a symbol of love actually, just the symbol of "I'm taken". I think what's more important is the wedding band anyways.




MsDenuninani Posts : 3,962 Registered: 3/16/07
Re: I HATE MY ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!
Posted: Jan 4, 2008 12:10 PM Go to message in response to: UltimatePink

Exactly.  What's important is the engagement itself.  The ring is just jewelry.

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