We will be married in New York this coming summer, but currently live outside of the United States. Following the wedding we will continue to live abroad, so we prefer not to receive any gifts from wedding guests. In many cases, most guests would prefer to give money, but how can we explicitly state this in a tasteful way? In the invitations?
Word of mouth really is the only tasteful way--you really can't direct what guests give you. You can choose not to register for gifts. IF people ask, have your parents and your bridal party (as well as yourselves) prepared to explain that, because you live abroad and shipping is expensive/ difficult, you would prefer money or gift cards (or whatever alternative you propose). But ONLY if people ask! Definitely not in invitations.
I know that this was posted a while back but I just had a thought.
There are a few different people that I have seen that either have most things or would like to have something a bit different. What I’m getting at is that I am assuming that you will at some point go on a honeymoon after the wedding. Perhaps you could get a online registry or list of things that would make up the parts of you honeymoon and ask people to get them for you. Like, a night in Paris, or a fairy trip to Sicily or a romantic dinner for two under the Eiffel tower… you get the picture. This way you are not asking people for money (at least not directly) and you don’t have to worry about posting gifts around the place.