Problems with FH

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Re: Problems with FH
Posted: Sep 22, 2006 7:01 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

Oh cry me a river! She doesn't need to talk to him about sexism and all of that hooray. He is not a child, and further more it's not even about all of that. It's simply about him going to a girly bar where they were shooting ping pongs out of they're coopatay.

 

If you ladies want to make it about women in other countries  being in poverty, then make another post about it. But some of you are going off track with it. All I'm saying is stick to the issue.


D.S......KissSoon to be Mrs. Stovall!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Re: Problems with FH
Posted: Sep 22, 2006 7:24 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

i am sorry you feel that way but i do beleive that ALL factors of an issue must be considered. to only address half the issues negates the post in its entirety. once again, if it were about her trusts and insecurities then why did she let him travel 1/2 way around the world without her. or is that not the issue? additionally, i do think men, even those over the age of 18, makes mistakes and sometimes lack judgement.

 

 

if you feel that is what the post was about that is your perogative, but i felt taking ALL the informatuion into context there were deeper meanings. if it were ONLY about naked women, i don't beleive the OP would have stated the particular sex act the participants were partaking in. to quote the OP "it wasn't like a normal girly bar".

 

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Re: Problems with FH
Posted: Sep 22, 2006 7:33 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

Let him travel 1/2 way around the world without her.

 

I guess that you take your FH to work with you. Because if you read right, that's what he does overseas. The man only looked, you women are on here like this man has touched, screwed, and whatever else yall want to make up. Some women tend to over analyze every dang thing and it's so cut and dry with a man (sometimes). He was at work, probably left work to get some drinks at a club he heard about, went to the club to "look", and went back where ever he was staying and called his fiancee and told her about it. Wow, what a bad guy!


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Re: Problems with FH
Posted: Sep 22, 2006 7:35 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

to have a man who travels for work DOES involve trust. also, i never said he was a bad guy. i said his patronization showed poor judgement. please read previous posts. thanks.

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Re: Problems with FH
Posted: Sep 22, 2006 7:39 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

I swear that you must have a problem READING, the words you said he was a bad guy never left my mouth. I said it in a sarcastic way, I kinda thought that was obvious though.....
D.S......KissSoon to be Mrs. Stovall!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Re: Problems with FH
Posted: Sep 22, 2006 7:43 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

i apologize that sarcasim is not well interepreted over the internet. how shocking!!! (by the way, that was me being sarcastic.) don't know why this fight is being picked, but i'm out of this post. talk to you later on another post. best wishes.

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kelleyiskelley Posts : 11,590 Registered: 7/2/06
Re: Problems with FH
Posted: Sep 22, 2006 10:42 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

DAMN ....whatd I miss??? This post on ping-pongs coming out of girls Hoo-ha's is even more controversial and heated than the religious post that some of us got involved in!!!! LOL.

 

OP.... just to add some humor to the mix and also come up with a possible fun solution to this issue, here is my advice:

One night, about a week from now, or maybe even longer than that, while the two of you are sitting around doing not much.... go in the bathroom and get ready to go out. Dress up really nice and sexy, and then have one of your girlfriends come and pick you up. Dont even mention it to FH until he asks. Then look him straight in the face and just say "Oh honey... dont worry.. Cheryl and I are just going to this place where random guys bend over and shoot golf balls out of their asses. Then we are gonna play ring toss around their hard members .... See ya later! "

 

Then go out to a movie and never speak of it again.:)

That should drop the subject for good lol.


Kelley Lynn:)

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Re: Problems with FH
Posted: Sep 22, 2006 10:49 PM Go to message in response to: kelleyiskelley

Cheryl and I are just going to this place where random guys bend over and shoot golf balls out of their asses. Then we are gonna play ring toss around their hard members .... See ya later!

Thank you, kelley, for making me spit Diet Coke out on my keyboard ;p

Jamie and Bill
Daisypath Ticker

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Re: Problems with FH
Posted: Sep 22, 2006 10:51 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

That's funny as hell......................................I can see it now, mouth just to the floor!


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kelleyiskelley Posts : 11,590 Registered: 7/2/06
Re: Problems with FH
Posted: Sep 22, 2006 11:23 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

LOL Now Im laughing at the image of Jamie spiting diet coke all over her keyboard ...too funny.

 

I just had to add some humor ....this post was getting much too serious! :)  Glad I made ya laugh.........


Kelley Lynn:)

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Re: Problems with FH
Posted: Sep 23, 2006 12:02 AM Go to message in response to: 071707

I do NOT think you are over-reacting. But for different reasons than you are probably thinking. I myself wouldn't really be too upset about an "adult-club" experience, what would bother me is the type of club he went to! How unbelievably disgusting! I have heard of this unfortunately...I once saw some stupid movie that was supposed to be "funny" and a girl in the movie did that. I guess that what would bother me the most is that he would actually enjoy watching something like that, even if he thought it was "hillarious", and not sexual, I would be bothered. I guess that what really gets to me is that I don't like it when men are attracted to tacky, cheap women. I think it is pathetic. My fiance gets teased by some of the guys he works with because he actually asked the other guys to stop sending nasty porn with degrading pictures and videos of women. All the guys there were like "what is your Paxton's problem? He doesn't like porn?" And i was like, "no, he thinks it is for guys who don't get any, trashy people, and pre-teen boys." So, I guess this is one of the things I love about him! I mean, if there was a picture of a beautiful naked woman, or a steamy sex scene on t.v. with a classy-looking woman or some super-model, of course he would get excited, and I would expect him to, but he would never ever watch something so trashy!

And BTW, in places like those, those woman are NOT just "strippers" like in the US, they are PROSTITUTES!!!!

I am sorry for you! How dirty and awful. I guess that is just my opinion though, I have high morals when it comes to pornography, it is just nasty to me...and tasteless!

Oh, and Gin...I am glad that our FH's have enough sense to see a stripclub for what it really is...tacky, cheesy women trying to make a dollar for degrading themselves, and some stupid guys actually are dumb enough to believe that these women are actually interested in them! LOL! And they apparently don't put 2 and 2 together and figure that the more $$$ they throw at these cheap women, the more they "like" them! I am glad my FH has a brain that he thinks with a little more than his...

Message was edited by paxbug on Sep 23, 2006 12:08 AM

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071707 Posts : 313 Registered: 3/31/06
Re: Problems with FH
Posted: Sep 23, 2006 6:21 AM Go to message in response to: Guest

Thank you everyone for your different opinions. The responses to this post have given me some balance and helped clarify exactly why I got so upset. 

First off, I hate that sort of 'entertainment' I find it tacky and degrading for women and not at all funny. Which worries me and leads me to think that we may not have as much in common as we used to, which in turn makes me think I don't know him as well as I used to. He used to be such a sweetie and it just feels like his sweetness has been tainted, if you know what I mean? 

Another thing is I stay at home looking after the children and he gets to go places, and of all the places he could have gone to, he chose this place. I feel like it reflects badly on me somehow and disrespects me and also shows how badly he values women in any society. I think just because it may be o.k. in their society doesn't mean he has to think it's o.k. or to participate in it.

It also bothers me because when I was a young girl my Dad would come home from work trips and he would tell me how most of the married guys would be with prostitutes while they were away, so I have some trust issues there.

But the main reason is I just hate to think of my fiance looking at a naked girl (and she was...completely) doing disgusting degrading things with her body, and thinking it's funny. And as I told him...that's somebody's daughter!

Anyway, I have been talking to him about my feelings on this matter and we are working on it. (Meaning, he is doing his darndest to get back in the good books again. I'm talking presents and the works)

Thanks again for your input.


 

 

A problem shared is a problem halved  Smile

7/7/07 bride!!!

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071707 Posts : 313 Registered: 3/31/06
Re: Problems with FH
Posted: Sep 23, 2006 6:35 AM Go to message in response to: 071707

Oh, and another thing. I don't understand why he would find the ping pong thing so fascinating when he has seen two babies come out of me. One would think that a couple of ten pound babies would be more of a feat than some tiny ping pongs! 

Also I think if we were younger I would not be upset but I feel that we should be past this kind of thing now.


 

 

A problem shared is a problem halved  Smile

7/7/07 bride!!!

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RMB0414 Posts : 1,386 Registered: 8/2/06
Re: Problems with FH
Posted: Sep 23, 2006 8:46 AM Go to message in response to: kelleyiskelley

LOL Kelleylynn - that is a picture I could do without for the day.  HAHAHA.  Oh gosh, the ring tossing ... hahaha. 

 

 

 


Halfway there.... 04.14.07 I become a Mrs!!

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Soon2BTaylor Posts : 258 Registered: 6/1/06
Re: Problems with FH
Posted: Sep 25, 2006 2:44 PM Go to message in response to: 071707

mumnbride....I would have to agree, he should be much more facinated by the babies....That is real talent Laughing

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