well, we did have a chat. he actually noticed that i had been acting a bit stand offish. i came out and feesed up. he was not dissapointed at all, and i found his answers to be satisfactory though we did have a discussion about what kind of exploration we both found comfortable. i really dont mind if he checks out Carmen Electra, but I dont feel comfortable with him checking out Jane Smith from down the road. I also think a part of me was snooping so i could try to find something incriminating, therefore, no matter what i would have found, i would have been upset about something. so maybe that is part of pre marital gitters that i have to explore about myself. whatever the case, i think we have found a mutual resolve and i am content with the outcome of the situation and his answers to me. for a while there i thought of not letting him know why i was upset, but thank you ladies for encouraging me to tell him. i think it would have just bothered me like a bad itch had i not said anything. 