Talk to your doctor about adding Wellbutrin to your daily pill regimen. I was taking Zoloft for treatment for IBS (it changes the way you react to pain) but it made me completely lack any sexual desire so I stopped taking it. When my abdominal pain returned with a vengeance I went back to my doctor and she prescribed Cymbalta for the IBS and also gave me a prescription for Wellbutrin as that is a known drug that will counteract the Cymbalta side effects. I have only been on it for a month but so far I haven't had any sexual side effects.
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I hope nobody will be offended if I get a little graphic so if this may bother you stop reading right now.
***********Still with me? OK- try havaing sex by candlelight (several candles). He gets to be turned on by seeing your body and you get the satisfaction of knowing how flattering candlelight is. Also- lubricant is your best friend. We use Astroglide and just before he enters me we put a healthy amount on him AND me. Even if I am extremely turned on I almost always need some extra help to combat dryness.
*********** OK- now I am going to be REALLY graphic: masterbate and/or watch porn. By masturbating you can discover what really turns you on- breast stimulation, oral, fingering, etc. Watch the porn (alone or with him) for inspiration. My FH bought a couple of DVD's so we could try some more positions but we barely got through 10 minutes of it because we were extremely turned on and couldn't wait to try what we just saw!
*********** If none of these suggestions help you I would strongly recommend you talk to your doctor and/or a sex therapist. Did you previously have a bad sexual experience? Molestation, rape, etc.? (I don't expect you to tell us, I just want you to think about it. If this is the case then you will need counseling to overcome it.
*********** I am sure 99% of women go through some kind of sexual dysfunction (my estimate with no research to back it up of course!) in their lifetime. Be extremely open and honest with your FH. Like you, I am sure that the situation does suck. He will probably be thrilled to see you being proactive about the situation and know that there will be a light at the end of the tunnel, so to speak, and that you won't always be like this.
*********** On a personal note, I have been dealing with a serious illness since September (not fatal, just IBS, a chronic condition that leaves me in moderate to severe pain every single day) and I have very little interest in sex. I already mentioned my adventures in antidepressants but the biggest thing holding me back from having sex is that it aggravates my pain and I also have some symptoms that are not very ladylike like terrible gas- usually controllable but if I am orgasming I don't have a lot of control in that area. Since I typically orgasm during oral this presents a problem. FH and I have been open and honest with each other. Even though the situation completely sucks he knows that I am doing every single thing I can to get better and that is a huge relief for him.
********** Good luck!
