I definitely want my hairdresser to "updo" my hair for the wedding, however is it necessary to have my BM do this?? My hairdresser would love the business but am i obligated to pay? and this would require several hours of preparations, taking away from my preparation, IE> veil, dressing. I have some style challenged BM's so this would be a good thing, but money may be tight in all aspects. I know they could go to there own stylist is that ok for me to suggest that?