My soon-to-be husband does not want to have his dad as his best man but does want to try and include him in some way in the ceremony. I thought of having his parents walk down and light one of the candles we will use to light the unity candle with and then my parents lighting the other. Then both his mom and dad would be included as "part" of the ceremony. Any other ideas??
Congratulations on your engagement and upcoming wedding. It is very uncommon for a groom to have his father as the best man so there are a variety of other roles the FOG can fulfill. There is candle lighting or provide a reading. In a Catholic mass ceremony, the father of the groom can provide the offerings. He can also dance with the bride, give a speech or say a blessing over the meal. There's certainly plenty of opportunity to include the father of the groom in the wedding. Your fiance should talk to him to determine what he'd be comfortable doing.
Howard Kier, Certified Professional Wedding Photographer