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wishinghopingpr... Posts : 13 Registered: 12/17/09

Good thing I wasn't surprised by this...: Posted: Dec 17, 2009 2:46 PM; I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. We live together, we have a dog together, and we've had some serious talks about marriage, children, and buying a house.

Naturally, I was kind of hoping for a Christmas proposal so imagine my surprise when I stumbled across my Christmas present the other night (I was not snooping, he just didn't hide it very well). It's a bento box, which is basically a fancy japanese-style lunch box. It's neat, and it will come in handy as I do brown-bag it a lot, but still...it's a lunch box. So I privately got all of my disappointment out (yes, I cried a little) and plan to act surprised when I open it Christmas morning, but I can't help but be a little bit irked as this seems to be a very impersonal (and maybe a little insensitive) gift, especially considering the fact that he is fully aware of my desire to get engaged.

I guess I don't really have a specific question, but there is a part of me that thinks maybe I'm being a little bit selfish...am I? How would you react if you were hoping for a ring and instead got a lunch box? I'm just kind of a jumble of irritation right now because I'm trying to hard to be patient and not push him.

Just to clarify: I know that it is for me because he does not buy "things" for his family as they are all out of state and gift cards are the easiest to transport.

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starfish701 Posts : 465 Registered: 12/10/08

Re: Good thing I wasn't surprised by this...: Posted: Dec 17, 2009 3:18 PM Go to message in response to: wishinghopingpr...; Maybe he is giving you that and a ring. Maybe he is trying to confuse you. Maybe you will get a New Years surprise instead. Just try to relax and enjoy the holiday with out getting mad. I thought my FH was going to propose on a trip we took to Florida. It would have been perfect, but he didn't. However, a month later he surprised me. The wait sucked but it was worth it.

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ArtBride Posts : 4,841 Registered: 5/9/07

Re: Good thing I wasn't surprised by this...: Posted: Dec 17, 2009 3:24 PM Go to message in response to: wishinghopingpr...; I wouldn't stress about it until you know what he plans to put IN the bento box...
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Beeble Posts : 307 Registered: 11/19/09

Re: Good thing I wasn't surprised by this...: Posted: Dec 17, 2009 4:51 PM Go to message in response to: ArtBride; Exactly... maybe there will be something sparkly and shiny in the box!

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JerseyGirlVA Posts : 311 Registered: 9/17/09

Re: Good thing I wasn't surprised by this...: Posted: Dec 18, 2009 9:00 AM Go to message in response to: wishinghopingpr...; Just because there is a bento box under your tree doesn't mean that you're not getting a proposal. Relax, stop reading into things. Christmas is just 7 days away. Stay optimistic =)

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08divabride Posts : 832 Registered: 11/17/07

Re: Good thing I wasn't surprised by this...: Posted: Dec 18, 2009 9:38 AM Go to message in response to: wishinghopingpr...; Maybe he won't propose on Christmas Day? My husband propose to me on New Years Eve. Had me on pins and needles on Christmas Day and I didn't enjoy it because I was expecting a proposal.

So I'm telling you to enjoy your bento box and enjoy Christmas with your boo! He may have another surprise for you, but don't be disappointed if he doesn't.

Good luck and keep us posted!

september_2008 , georgia

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HappyGirl13 Posts : 1,300 Registered: 4/21/08

Re: Good thing I wasn't surprised by this...: Posted: Dec 18, 2009 11:25 AM Go to message in response to: 08divabride; I thought my husband was going to propose on our anniversary. Instead he proposed on a day that had absolutely no significance to us in order to throw me off, and he completely surprised me.

So relaaaaax and try to enjoy your holiday.

september_2008 , georgia , march_2008 , southern_california

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Beeble Posts : 307 Registered: 11/19/09

Re: Good thing I wasn't surprised by this...: Posted: Dec 18, 2009 11:29 AM Go to message in response to: 08divabride; Well I'm not getting my ring for Christmas. He says he will get me one later, whatever that means. So today i'll be sad for a while and drown my sorrows in Bailey's and then get on with being excited for Christmas just for Christmas sake instead of hoping for something I won't get.

I still hope he puts something nice for you in your bento box!

september_2008 , georgia

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FrancieElaine Posts : 655 Registered: 6/26/09

Re: Good thing I wasn't surprised by this...: Posted: Dec 18, 2009 1:47 PM Go to message in response to: wishinghopingpr...; My son just proposed this week to his GF of over five years. He really wanted to propose last Christmas, but he had one more year of college left and really wanted to wait until he was 1) finished with school and 2) more financially able stable. I think considering you have been together for one year... you may try to be a bit more patient and realize he will propose when the time is right for both of you. It's okay to feel disappointed. Just don't let it get to you. He obviously loves you very much.
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JerseyGirlVA Posts : 311 Registered: 9/17/09

Re: Good thing I wasn't surprised by this...: Posted: Dec 18, 2009 2:20 PM Go to message in response to: FrancieElaine; Congratulations Francie! Your son sounds like he is a very level-headed individual. I thank goodness that my man has the patience & consideration that I don't at times, especially when it comes to marriage. In the moment things may be difficult to understand, but once the commotion settles, it all makes sense. These men might just be getting smarter and smarter.

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FrancieElaine Posts : 655 Registered: 6/26/09

Re: Good thing I wasn't surprised by this...: Posted: Dec 18, 2009 7:07 PM Go to message in response to: JerseyGirlVA; Thank you Jersey! Yes, I think there are a lot of great young men out there!
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ArtBride Posts : 4,841 Registered: 5/9/07

Re: Good thing I wasn't surprised by this...: Posted: Dec 21, 2009 10:35 AM Go to message in response to: Beeble; So today i'll be sad for a while and drown my sorrows in Bailey's

Urgh...my teeth hurt simply from reading that!
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