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Leah12 Posts : 1 Registered: 6/27/12

Son not inviting estranged parents: Posted: Jun 27, 2012 11:24 PM; I just talked to my son. He and his bride to be have decided upon a small wedding in a courthouse with his sister, his best friend and the bride's sister and her best friend. No parents.

We are divorced and have been estranged due to multiple issues. My ex-wife has not seen or talked to my daughter for over 18 years, only to my son (for some ridiculous reason). My son loves his sister and does not want her to have to see her mom under this stress for the first time. He still sees his mom on occasion. He is very close to me. He is feeling terrible but said he would rather not put his sister through the stress of seeing her mom at the wedding and all the issues that would come up with that.

They would have a reception without the mom at a later date and it would be a bigger party.

However, I am heartbroken as this day is important to me and I wanted to be there with him. Can't imagine it any other way. He is strong willed and has said that he and his bride to be have discussed it over and over. He just can't hurt my daughter. I understand it but it hurts.

His mother will not talk to me - hasn't for 18 years - returns letters I have sent - won't answer the phone. So, she won't talk to me at all. I am willing to be civil at the wedding and reception but that won't help my daughter. She was completely cut off by her mom because she challenged her mom's treatment of me and her mom said she never wanted to see her again.

What do you all think? Is there any other option to work this out? My son said he would video the wedding but it is not like being there.

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Syringa Posts : 97 Registered: 1/18/12

Re: Son not inviting estranged parents: Posted: Jun 28, 2012 1:40 PM Go to message in response to: Leah12; As a parent, this has to be very difficult for you; it would be for me. Your son and his fiancee have chosen to also exclude her parents, so they appear to be trying to be as fair as possible to everyone. Personally, I would accept their decision graciously and accept the video and attend the reception. In the long run, how you handle your hurt could affect your future relationship with your son and his future family. Though it may hurt, being supportive will gain more than making sure they are aware of your displeasure at their plan.

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