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CandyFiend Posts : 1 Registered: 2/23/12
Clueless maid of honor
Posted: Feb 23, 2012 4:36 PM

Okay, so my best friend of 10 years is getting married in August of next year, and has selected me as the maid of honor. It would be all fine and dandy, except that I have no idea what to do. I've only ever been to two weddings in my life, and never being in the wedding party, I haven't even an inkling on how to help my bride with her big day.

I don't even know what I could do for a bachelorette party. Her mother and two sisters (one a high schooler) are going to be in attendance, so it can't be a bar-hopping event.

That being said, I'm a mother of a two and a half year old, and a 7 month old, soon to be returning to work so my schedule is going to be tight. I just want my bride to know that I have time to help her prepare, and have fun along the way too. Any suggestions on how I can help all this planning to go smoothly and easily?

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Aunt Posts : 796 Registered: 12/31/10
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Posted: Feb 23, 2012 8:43 PM Go to message in response to: CandyFiend

Dear CF,

Relax, it's not that difficult.

What about a bachelorette party? Does it have to be a drunken pub crawl? No. You can do anything you think everyone would enjoy, including the mother and the younger sister.

Here's one idea: Minor league baseball. Tickets to minor league baseball are not expensive, and you can have a great time. Those over 21 can drink a modest amount of beer, and there will be hot dogs and nachos for everyone.

Another idea: Spa day. See if you can find a day spa and go as a group to get massages, wraps, mani/pedis, etc. Everyone pays their own way, but they chip in to treat the bride.

My suggestion to you as far as learning MOH duties is to get a wedding magazine (Brides is good) and then read up on what to expect. Essentially, you have to be helpful to the bride as she plans the wedding, get the dress of her choice and show up on W-Day.

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Dragonfly2 Posts : 5 Registered: 2/24/12
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Posted: Feb 25, 2012 6:28 AM Go to message in response to: Aunt

You could just do a bachelorette luncheon. I went to something like that recently. No one in the bridal party was really into going to a bar or a club so we just threw a party at the house. We bought tons of "bachelorette" theme party supplies and the bride's grandmother made a naughty cake! Everyone chipped in and we all had a great time.

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Archie Posts : 6 Registered: 11/15/10
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Posted: Feb 25, 2012 7:16 PM Go to message in response to: CandyFiend

My best advice is to go an talk to your friend about what she expects of you. Some brides expect BMs to be there for every vendor meeting and to essentially put their life on hold for the wedding. Some brides want you to plan a bachelorette or kitchen tea. Some will just want you to show up, dressed nicely and smile on the day.

Organise a chance to catch up one on one with your friend, ask what she is expecting and how you can help and see if it matches with what you are willing and capable to do. Reading magazines or websites or listening to other people is good, but can't take into consideration your friend's expectations and your abilities. Have one frank conversation now and set realistic expectations for each other and save heartache (and the potential loss of a good friend later)

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claire3 Posts : 3 Registered: 3/3/12
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Posted: Mar 3, 2012 11:33 PM Go to message in response to: CandyFiend

As far as the party, I had a sleepover with great food and ice cream sundays. We stayed up late with chick ficks, had a couple naughty games, but it was more a chance for the girls to decompress and have fun before all the stress hit the fan!

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