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Incorporating MOB into the Ceremony

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MaryMcGwen Posts : 19 Registered: 4/27/10
Incorporating MOB into the Ceremony
Posted: Nov 1, 2010 5:58 PM

Hello everyone,
I am starting to think about planning the different aspects of my ceremony... and I was wondering if you wouldn't mind helping me brainstorm one aspect in particular.

I am INCREDIBLY close to my mom... in fact I would 100% call her my very best friend. With that said, I want to find a way to really incorporate my mom in the ceremony. I am having my dad walk me down the aisle... and while I do find it VERY neat when both parents walk their daughter down the aisle... it has been something my dad and I have talked about since I was a little girl... and my mom says she would rather not be a part of that moment.

I already have a maid of honor... so that is out of the question.

With that said, any other ideas how I could incorporate my mom during the ceremony?

I want to have a mom and me moment during the ceremony. Do people think this is lame? Or do you have any suggestions?

Thank you!

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MizJodi Posts : 65 Registered: 3/8/07
Re: Incorporating MOB into the Ceremony
Posted: Nov 1, 2010 6:39 PM Go to message in response to: MaryMcGwen

Perhaps a "cut the apron strings"? (seriously, not being sarcastic). I've seen that done, and while I wouldn't, depending on your situation might be cute.

The parents hand the couple an apron, and cut the strings off to signal the seperation and change.

Otherwise, the most traditional way is have the MOB and MOG light the candles for the unity candle ceremony (if you do one). Perhaps have her read a favorite poem or passage?

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MaryMcGwen Posts : 19 Registered: 4/27/10
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Posted: Nov 1, 2010 6:52 PM Go to message in response to: MizJodi

Thank you for the response MizJodi!
I don't think the apron idea will work well for our wedding ceremony, but thank you for the idea!

Regarding the lighting of the candles... that was certainly something I thought about... although truth is... my fiance barely has any kind of a relationship with his mother, whereas my mother and I am very close. With that said... it would have been neat to have something "just" for my mom. Or does that sound far too selfish? Or perhaps the lighting of the candles with both moms and then something else with just my mom and me?

In regards to the reading of a passage or poem, I thought about that too, but do you think that would look poor if my mom read something and I didn't ask my fiance's mom to read something as well)?

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MizJodi Posts : 65 Registered: 3/8/07
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Posted: Nov 1, 2010 7:04 PM Go to message in response to: MaryMcGwen

One of the priviledges of being a bride planning it; you can pick whom you want! Personally, I wouldn't think anything of it if the MOG didn't do something, and the MOB did. Though, being an MOB in and of itself is usually pretty special!

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mrscreamer2be Posts : 153 Registered: 6/14/09
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Posted: Nov 1, 2010 7:30 PM Go to message in response to: MaryMcGwen

Both of our moms did the unity candle part of the ceremony. My mom read during our ceremoney. His mom didn't read, but his dad did. It just depends on what you want to do. However, we did ask his mom if she would mind. She said no, she was too shy to read.

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chris42005 Posts : 89 Registered: 4/6/10
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Posted: Nov 1, 2010 7:31 PM Go to message in response to: MaryMcGwen

How about your mom giving you something a flower differant than what you are holding, a necklace, or maybe something from her wedding or wedding dress. She could do this just before you start the wedding when dad "hands" you off.

A friend's daughter hand her Grandmother's pearls wrapped around another Grandmother's Bible(small) and all of that was incorporated into her flowers that she carried. Something like that also might work.

Just some thoughts off the top of my head. Good luck.

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,357 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: Incorporating MOB into the Ceremony
Posted: Nov 1, 2010 7:36 PM Go to message in response to: MaryMcGwen

Dear Mary,

"I want to have a mom and me moment during the ceremony. Do people think this is lame? Or do you have any suggestions?"

Since you are having the "traditional" father escort, why not just go with the "traditional" mother-daughter kiss when you get to the front?

Dad walks you in, you get to the front pew where Mom is waiting. You stop for a moment, kiss and hug, then move over to take your place next to your groom.

The groom, traditionally, just walks in from a side door without fanfare.

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CheetahAngel Posts : 2,017 Registered: 11/29/08
Re: Incorporating MOB into the Ceremony
Posted: Nov 2, 2010 11:52 AM Go to message in response to: MaryMcGwen

Maybe you can have your mom read a poem or something or make a short speech. Also I think if you do a sand ceremony your mom comes up and pours some sand in.

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myras Posts : 396 Registered: 2/26/10
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Posted: Nov 2, 2010 12:48 PM Go to message in response to: MaryMcGwen

You've pretty much heard most of the viable suggestions for what she could doduring the actual ceremony. My first vote would be for walking with you and Dad, but if she doesn't want to, I'd take Aunt's approach of a special kiss and a whispered moment.

That being said, the most special moments for me (as MOB) and my daughter were the private ones before and after the public ceremony. I was with her (and her maids) when she got ready, with the couple during their first sighting and moments with their officiant, and with her at various moments during the reception. We didn't have to make it public in order to share our special moments.

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dearlybeloved Posts : 1 Registered: 1/2/11
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Posted: Jan 2, 2011 3:14 PM Go to message in response to: MaryMcGwen

Hi there,
I would usually suggest having her participate in the Unity Candl, do a reading, or create another custom ceremony element that both the mothers participate in.
Hope that helps,
Mirabai
www.philadelphiaweddingofficiant.com

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