Do I need a guestbook?

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deliciousappleb... Posts : 15 Registered: 8/21/10
Do I need a guestbook?
Posted: Nov 16, 2010 10:04 PM

I'm curious. My fiance and I are not very traditional when it comes to most things, so now that we're trying to plan a wedding, we're kind of shocked and overwhelmed with all of the CRAP people buy for their weddings!

For example: the guestbook. I will already have my wedding album (my guest list is pretty short and my photographer and I agree that candid photos are best, so she figures we'll be able to have photos of everyone enjoying the day) and cards and gifts and whatever else as mementos of the day, so I really don't think I ALSO need another book full of autographs.

I guess my real question is not whether I need a guestbook, because it's pretty obvious to me that I don't (no offense meant at all to those of you who do, everyone has different preferences!), but whether my GUESTS need one. Will they notice if I don't have one and think it's weird or rude? I don't mind shelling out forty bucks for a useless book of signatures if it will offend people not to have one.

I don't plan to have a program for the ceremony or an outlandish cake or an eight course dinner or any of that stuff, and I suppose I'm just worried that with all of the "traditional" things we're leaving out, people are going to be confused or annoyed. I'd appreciate advice on the things I'm going to need and why I need them. Right now the plan is to have a quick ceremony at our reception site, then move the chairs out of the way and eat and drink until dawn. I personally think that will be more fun, but I know that people have certain expectations of weddings and I wonder if it will put people off to leave those things out.

Thoughts?

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: Do I need a guestbook?
Posted: Nov 16, 2010 10:20 PM Go to message in response to: deliciousappleb...

Dear Del,

People get guestbooks if they think they need them. You don't think you need one. Skip it.

No one will notice.

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deliciousappleb... Posts : 15 Registered: 8/21/10
Re: Do I need a guestbook?
Posted: Nov 16, 2010 10:27 PM Go to message in response to: auntofthebride

Hahaha, awesome. Thanks!

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KateLouise Posts : 40 Registered: 7/16/10
Re: Do I need a guestbook?
Posted: Nov 17, 2010 2:02 PM Go to message in response to: deliciousappleb...

I was exactly like you. In fact, during a slow day at work, I actually made a list so-called must-haves I was going to do without, just to feel smug. A guest book was on the list, along with engraved cake knife and server set, engraved toasting flutes, garter, and even favours. (No offence to anyone who had these things - I just didn't feel the need).

As well as being an unnecessary expense, it was another hassle to organise; guests in general hate being forced to pen deep and meaningful thoughts when they'd rather be drinking and socialising; and it was more clutter for the house that we didn't need. If you don't want it, forget it. The same goes for EVERYTHING other than a groom and an officiant.

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Agape14 Posts : 201 Registered: 12/31/08
Re: Do I need a guestbook?
Posted: Nov 18, 2010 12:32 PM Go to message in response to: deliciousappleb...

Obviously don't have one if you don't want one (that goes for everything wedding-related), but I also think it's a matter of perspective.

I think an autograph book on it's own, or a list of addresses is unnecessary. But like a PP mentioned, a guestbook can take many forms like the signed framed.

We did a Scrapbook and it's something that I love. We had a photobooth set up at the wedding which printed double prints: one for the guest to take home as a mini favour, and one for our scrapbook. Then the guests would insert the picture into the scrapbook and write a message to go along with their pic. I provides coloured pens and stickers, and the end result was amazing. I have something that I'll actually look at over the years and I know our guests had a great time with it (the fun messages and crazy pics from the photobooth provided ample evidence =).

So my advice is not to do a guestbook just for the sake of having a traditional item at your wedding. But it is an easy area to get creative and make a great keepsake from your special day.

Oh, and we also did time capsules where guests wrote messages that we'll read on our 1yr, 5yr, 10yr, or 25yr anniversary. Another great keepsake idea derived from the concept of the guestbook, but done a bit more creatively.

 

 

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: Do I need a guestbook?
Posted: Nov 18, 2010 1:46 PM Go to message in response to: deliciousappleb...

Ladies,

Vendors in the Wedding Industrial Complex stay up nights trying to think of more products they can foist upon couples planning a wedding. (Save the Date cards would be Exhibit A.)

Some are good ideas, some not.

Think, carefully, about each item and ask yourself "Do I need/want this?" Take a zero-sum approach.

Then, learn how to say "no".

That way you spend your hard-earned money on things of value to you and eschew things of no personal value.

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KCI Posts : 150 Registered: 3/30/09
Re: Do I need a guestbook?
Posted: Nov 18, 2010 3:45 PM Go to message in response to: Agape14

Agape - I love the scrapbook idea. I've heard of it before and plan to do it at my own wedding. I know a local company that rents photobooths that spits out the common 4-picture strips. You get 2 copies - one for you to take and one for a scrapbook. Definitely doing that at my wedding.

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