too soon to plan?

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linz Posts : 7 Registered: 8/31/10
too soon to plan?
Posted: Sep 16, 2010 12:53 PM

Hi!
I've been engaged to my fiance for a month now, we've already met the priest and reserved the church. We aren't getting married until April 2012, am I planning too soon!!

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
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Posted: Sep 16, 2010 12:59 PM Go to message in response to: linz

Dear Linz,

It's not too soon to start gathering ideas. I woudn't go out and buy a dress, because the dress you buy now might be out of style in two years.

Get a loose leaf notebook with pocket folders. Labels them "Dress, Flowers, Cake" etc.

Get some bridal mags (ie "wedding porn") and look through the articles and ads. When you see something you like, tear out the ad and put it in your folder. Similarly, print out what you see on the internet.

Then, go through the folder from time to time and throw out what no longer appeals to you.

As you do this, start a proposed budget. How many people do you want to invite? How much money do you have? As you look at ads, start putting in dollars into a budget spreadsheet.

Do this for a while, then you'll have a pretty good idea of what you want, and what you can afford, when it's time to start putting actual money on the table.

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08divabride Posts : 831 Registered: 11/17/07
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Posted: Sep 16, 2010 5:05 PM Go to message in response to: linz

AOTB gave an excellent suggestion. It gives you a reason to look at "wedding porn" and gather some ideas.

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linz Posts : 7 Registered: 8/31/10
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Posted: Sep 16, 2010 5:05 PM Go to message in response to: auntofthebride

Thanks! I already started that.
I feel if I don't start now its going to come down to the last months especially with two little boys running around!

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: too soon to plan?
Posted: Sep 16, 2010 7:10 PM Go to message in response to: linz

Dear Linz,

Besides, you don't want to lock everything in way ahead of time.

Let's say you want chocolate and pink. Let's say you get everything ready a year in advance.

Then, in the year before your wedding you go to three chocolate and pink weddings in a row.

ARGH! You don't want to be the FOURTH chocolate and pink wedding, but that would mean ditching all the stuff you have so far.

Better to wait, collect ideas, look at what others are doing, then make your final decisions six months (or so) out.

PS: Not so hypothetical. A couple of years ago I really did go to three chocolate and pink weddings. Different groups of friends, so no copycats. It was just an over-popular color combination for a while.

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linz Posts : 7 Registered: 8/31/10
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Posted: Sep 16, 2010 7:34 PM Go to message in response to: auntofthebride

Totally get and understand what your saying, I guess I just feel that since we've been together five yrs and have two boys , people aren't as excited for us.
Maybe I'm just being silly :)

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: too soon to plan?
Posted: Sep 16, 2010 10:41 PM Go to message in response to: linz

Dear Linz,

"Totally get and understand what your saying, I guess I just feel that since we've been together five yrs and have two boys , people aren't as excited for us."

People don't get "excited" about some event way in the future. As time gets closer, yes, they'll get excited.

There are those who might look down their nose at someone getting married AFTER the birth of two children, but in my opinion it is a cause for celebration when the mother and father of children commit themselves to each other in legal marriage.

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Bride2008 Posts : 3,058 Registered: 3/28/06
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Posted: Sep 21, 2010 9:52 AM Go to message in response to: linz

I am going to be in the minority probably, but I don't think its too early to do some major planning. As long as you are a decisive person, I say go for it.

DH and I got engaged in July of 2006 and our wedding was in October 2008. Within 3 months of our engagement, we had booked the church, reception site, photographer, DJ, florist and limo company. We met with some great people we really liked and wanted to work with, so we didn't see the point in waiting. We also saved money by booking early.

Certain things you can absolutely wait on, like invitations, or bridesmaids dresses or what colors you like. But if you can get some major stuff done and have less stress and worry when it comes time to make smaller, detailed decision, why not do it?

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bk0404 Posts : 7 Registered: 9/4/10
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Posted: Sep 27, 2010 11:46 AM Go to message in response to: Bride2008

I am in in the same boat as you. We just got engaged and we are planning on having the wedding in June 2012 (1yr and 9 months away :)). I think its a good idea to do major things now. Meet with photographers, look at churches and reception sites, talk about budget. I am planning on saving most of the design elements and the attire for later on. But I know its hard to get engaged and not start planning right away. So, I say start the builing blocks now and save the final touches for later.

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linz Posts : 7 Registered: 8/31/10
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Posted: Sep 30, 2010 2:58 PM Go to message in response to: bk0404

It is so hard not to really plan! A friend of mine is getting married next August and her dress just came in! I want to try some on, but I have 15 months!!
I'm just so excited!!

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taelynne Posts : 3 Registered: 10/31/10
Re: too soon to plan?
Posted: Nov 10, 2010 11:06 AM Go to message in response to: linz

You and I are in the same boat. I got engaged the middle of Sept. and I am not getting married until May of 2012.

I've went and looked at a couple ceremony/reception sites because I found one I thought was "the place" and I ended up absolutely hating it.

I don't think looking at places, looking for ideas, planning some stuff is bad. I already know who is doing my hair, who my photographer is, who is doing my cake, what day it is, what my favors and invitations will look like, ect.. I don't see anything wrong with it. It has made me less stressed out.

I am the type of person who has to have everything planned out as soon as possible so it was kind of my nature to start early.

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Mrs_Orto Posts : 14 Registered: 7/19/10
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Posted: Nov 15, 2010 3:57 PM Go to message in response to: linz

I agree with the last few posters. I don't think there's a problem with doing things now like booking vendors. Like Bride2008 mentioned, doing so can save you money. However, I would DEFINITELY hold off on the style details (color, attire, invites, etc.) until you are at least within the 12 month mark. As others have pointed out, your dress could end up being out of style, you could see way too much of your color scheme before your wedding, or you could simply change your mind. Let me tell you from experience, you don't need months and months to plan a wedding. I had to plan my entire wedding in only 3 months and it has worked out perfectly. I was able to find all of my vendors for very reasonable prices and get everything exactly how I wanted it. Even if I had had a year and 3 months to plan, my wedding would be just as wonderful as it will be now. So, don't feel like you have to work out every detail right now. Put together ideas of things you like, do research online (this site is amazing for ideas), and maybe look into vendors (photographer, reception hall, baker, caterer, etc.) but don't rush yourself, it would actually end up being even more stressful.

Mrs. Orto
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jackson132 Posts : 1,623 Registered: 9/13/12
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Posted: Sep 15, 2012 6:21 PM Go to message in response to: linz

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