Bridesmaid selection help

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KateVtobe Posts : 1 Registered: 8/26/10
Bridesmaid selection help
Posted: Aug 26, 2010 2:42 PM

I am having a battle within myself as to whether or not I should ask a friend to in my wedding party. We have been friends since high school and I was the maid of honor in her wedding earlier this summer, but her moodiness is unpredictable and half the time planning her wedding we were not speaking. We currently are not speaking, for reasons to me unknown. I do not want to put up with that behavior while planning but I feel obligated to have her as a bridesmaid since I was in her wedding. Should I do what I want or be a friend and have her in my wedding?

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PharmToxGirl Posts : 5,446 Registered: 8/30/07
Re: Bridesmaid selection help
Posted: Aug 26, 2010 2:48 PM Go to message in response to: KateVtobe

Don't invite trouble. You are under no obligation to have her in your wedding.

I, personally, would not ask her.

 

 

 

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: Bridesmaid selection help
Posted: Aug 26, 2010 3:19 PM Go to message in response to: KateVtobe

Dear Kate,

" but I feel obligated to have her as a bridesmaid since I was in her wedding. "

Only if you are a masochist.

If you are not into self-torture, do not ask her. She's being a jerk and there is no reason to let her jerkiness ruin your planning process and the wedding itself.

"Should I do what I want or be a friend"

She is not much of a friend to you, now, is she?

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cyndi33 Posts : 2,585 Registered: 1/3/07
Re: Bridesmaid selection help
Posted: Aug 27, 2010 1:27 AM Go to message in response to: auntofthebride

What AOTB and Pharm said. Exactly. Do NOT stress over it, you have no obligation, and it is not worth it. You aren't wrong...

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2dBride Posts : 158 Registered: 3/16/09
Re: Bridesmaid selection help
Posted: Aug 28, 2010 1:51 PM Go to message in response to: KateVtobe

Whenever you have to ask yourself whether someone should be in your wedding party, the answer is probably no. To begin with, the smaller the wedding party, the less chance there is of drama. And if you've got someone you know already causes drama, why invite her to bring the drama to your wedding?


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