a very inconveniant breakup

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anfeesgirl Posts : 25 Registered: 1/25/09
a very inconveniant breakup
Posted: Jun 6, 2010 12:43 PM

one of my bridesmaids and her boyfriend maybe breaking up soon. i am getting married in 4 months. they are both equally very good and close friends. i cant imagine getting married without either of them present. my problem is, the bridesmaid is the one at fault for this possible breakup. she and her boyfriend have been engaged since christmas but recently she seems to be a little commitment-phobic. she's changed and im upset by it because they seem so perfect for each other. they have been together since before my FH and i even knew each other. i have no idea what to do. please help.


Amy...

On October 9th, 2010, I will be Mrs. Anthony J. Fiore!

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PharmToxGirl Posts : 5,446 Registered: 8/30/07
Re: a very inconveniant breakup
Posted: Jun 6, 2010 1:10 PM Go to message in response to: anfeesgirl

Personally, I'd invite them both and let them figure it out. They are adults. Also, I wouldn't take sides.

It's a difficult situation to be in. Sorry.

 

 

 

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PharmToxGirl Posts : 5,446 Registered: 8/30/07
Re: a very inconveniant breakup
Posted: Jun 6, 2010 1:10 PM Go to message in response to: anfeesgirl

Doh! Double Post.




Edited by: PharmToxGirl on Jun 6, 2010 1:10 PM

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karebeartg Posts : 831 Registered: 6/25/08
Re: a very inconveniant breakup
Posted: Jun 6, 2010 1:32 PM Go to message in response to: anfeesgirl

I wouldn't worry about it.

A) They haven't broken up yet and a lot can change in 4 months

and

B) It doesn't sound like she's done anything horrible.

If they do break up, I'm sure there will be plenty of emotions and hurt feelings, but like PTG said, they're adults and can figure it out/behave/etc.

 

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myras Posts : 396 Registered: 2/26/10
Re: a very inconveniant breakup
Posted: Jun 6, 2010 2:51 PM Go to message in response to: anfeesgirl

the bridesmaid is the one at fault for this possible breakup.

Says who? That's really not up to you to judge. Relationships are complicated, and only the two people involved know the whole story (if anyone does!!) You're equal friends with both? Great, invite both. Stay out of it. It's up to them to decide how to handle it. That's especially true if either (or both) try to manipulate you or force you to take sides (e.g."I won't be there if he's there!" Answer: "That's up to you. Please let me know what your plans are. If you drop out, I'll miss you.")
myra@classysassyweddings.com

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: a very inconveniant breakup
Posted: Jun 6, 2010 5:02 PM Go to message in response to: anfeesgirl

Dear Amy,

Their situation, and any fault in any breakup, is their business and not yours.

Invite them both. Let them work it out. Their problem.

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August28th Posts : 153 Registered: 1/28/09
Re: a very inconveniant breakup
Posted: Jun 6, 2010 9:16 PM Go to message in response to: anfeesgirl

I agree with the PPs. I say invite them both and if one of them feels too uncomfortable one can opt out of coming (of course I doubt a BM would do that.) And if they both show up I'm sure they can act like mature, civil adults for one evening. Good luck!


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Re: a very inconveniant breakup
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