I've been a hostess in a wedding or two and I've had plenty to do but my wedding hopefully won't be much fuss so I'm not sure I need a lot of hostesses. I've had a few people volunteer to be hostesses but honestly besides having a person ask people to sign the guestbook and someone to make sure the gifts are placed in the correct place and put in our car, I'm not sure what on earth the other hostesses need to do. I feel bad about having someone fix a plate of food for me and the wedding party. I know a lot of people do it for more formal weddings but for my wedding I want to kind of be up mingling around and dancing.
So does anyone have anymore ideas of hostess duties that maybe I'm missing? If you think more than 3 hostesses are needed or would be helpful on the big day let me know.
You need a couple of people to greet folks as they enter the church. There's a lot of running back and forth. Gifts have to be schlepped to the gift table, people need to know where to put their coats, or locate the restrooms. For a moderate sized wedding, I can see two or three people doing that.
Then, there the actual ceremony. You need a couple of people (usually called ushers) who can assist anyone who needs to leave the room, perhaps for the restroom or to shush a fussy baby. Specifically the usher has to be assertive with parents of unruly children to get them out of the room so the kid can be disciplined, fed, diaper changed, whatever.
I suggest using different people for that. In other words, your pre-ceremony hostesses are off-duty during the ceremony and your ceremony hostesses are off-duty during the entry and seating time.
If you think along those lines, you'll probably have enough jobs to assign to the various people who want to help out.