My fiancee and I do not want any gifts. We are in our early 30s and already have a home. We are not interested in receiving any type of gifts (wedding or shower). I really don't even want a shower because it is so materialistic. We don't want money in lieu of either. We just want to spend time with the people we love at our wedding and not have it centered on things or gifts. The only option is donating to charity. This is a great option but we don't want people to feel obligated to donate. Any suggestions on ways to make it clear we don't want gifts?