I'm not sure we will make it to October

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Lilmisssouthern... Posts : 658 Registered: 8/12/08
I'm not sure we will make it to October
Posted: Sep 1, 2009 8:55 AM

I need advice or just some reassurance or something.

My fiance and I have been fighting non-stop over the wedding for the past few weeks. It has really taken its toll on our relationship. We both feel defeated and exhausted. We fight over everything wedding related even things that shoudl cause arguments.

He knows I have been beyond stressed. He knows that I have school , work, the baby, and the wedding and he knows that it is a lot. He asked if he could help me to relieve some of my stress so I said yes handle the tuxedo rentals for me. Ok. Easy enough right? WRONG! Yesterday we jumped on to check to see who else needs to still get their tux's rented and I showed him that one of the groomsmen weren't even under our group. Well instead of saying Ok no biggie he flipped out... He went off on me about bringing it up. I tried to not argue with him because at this point I see no reason to even bother arguing, and he just kept pushing and pushing. He then proceeded to make the comment that I am not really as stressed as I say I am... That pissed me off. I stopeed talking to him about it so that no further damage could be done.

This morning I texted him on my way to work and asked him if we could calmly talk... He went off into another rampage. He told me that he didn't want to help me on everything that he only wanted to help me with the easy things... Literally thats what he said. Which to me was not really helping me relieve stress since the easy stuff isn't what is stressing me out... He said that our relationship is ruined. Ok OUCH. So now what? I keep trying to talk to him about and he just keeps on bashing us and me and my stress. I do not know what to do.

This process has gone beyond damaging our relationship. I have offered for time for us to step back together and just spend time not talking about the wedding or anything stressful because to him that makes it worse. I told him I wouldn't talk to him about my stress and that would hopefully help. He didn't like that idea either because then I am hiding it from him. What the hell am I supposed to do? Is this something that a lot of couples go through right before the wedding? Is there something we should be doing that could help?

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NJ4Life Posts : 3,358 Registered: 8/10/07
Re: I'm not sure we will make it to October
Posted: Sep 1, 2009 9:52 AM Go to message in response to: Lilmisssouthern...

Well I think this is something we ALL go through to some extent. DH and I are not yellers, fighters, screamers, but when the wedding was getting closer thats all we did. I even slammed the bedroom door a few times, and once I even stormed out of the apartment, slammed the door and sped off to 7-11! haha, the whole time crying on the phone to my sister and my mom about how I didnt want to marry him anymore! Now I look back and it's funny but I know at the time it feels like the end of the world.

Can you take a day to just do something together, non wedding related? even go to lunch or see a movie? That might help. I think you need to remember that planning a wedding magnifies every little thing by 100x. EVERYTHING feels like there is no way out. The best thing I Can say is try to talk abuot things calmly and if it starts getting out of hand, just walk away and cool off. It will all be over VERY soon, and we ALLLL go through it!

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Lilmisssouthern... Posts : 658 Registered: 8/12/08
Re: I'm not sure we will make it to October
Posted: Sep 1, 2009 10:02 AM Go to message in response to: NJ4Life

It's relieving to hear that someone else can relate. I just feel helpless. I mean we have tried going through days without the wedding stuff just so we can take a break and it still doesn't seem to help him. One day he wants to help so much because he doesn't feel like he is doing enough and then the next day he is "Overwhelmed" because he had to set up the tuxedo rentals at MWTUX.

I don't take out my stress on him because it isn't his fault. It just doesn't help when he is so unwilling to understand when I ask for help its because I NEED it. His mother has been my biggest stress issue lately. She has been beyond difficult about the guest list and she was content when we sent the invites out but now that they are out she "wishes she would have invited spongebob in stead of squidworth" I mean its literally how she is responding to us that is also adding to it.

I love him with all my heart and I want nothing more than to be married to him.... I just wish we could have eloped like I wanted all along and this would have been over.


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HappyGirl13 Posts : 1,298 Registered: 4/21/08
Re: I'm not sure we will make it to October
Posted: Sep 1, 2009 10:04 AM Go to message in response to: NJ4Life

Hey, Drm--The only thing that worries me about your post is that it seems like you're the one doing all the work, not only on the wedding but on trying to smooth things over and make them better. If we had your FH's side of the story, that might turn out to not be the case, but that's the way it appears from here. So are things usually out of balance with you two like that? Because that will make the actual marriage a harder road.

If your FH is NOT usually like that, then just know that this too shall pass. NJ gave good advice about taking a breather which it sounds like you thought about anyway. My DH and I didn't have fights that badly about the wedding, but when bought our first place together and moved a few months ago, we had terrible fights. We hadn't fought that badly before ever, and it was really hard. For a few weeks I felt like permanent damage had been done. But it passed and we're back to where we were before. Weddings and moving are major life transitions and they're hard, but it passes.

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Brooke051609 Posts : 723 Registered: 12/31/07
Re: I'm not sure we will make it to October
Posted: Sep 1, 2009 10:19 AM Go to message in response to: Lilmisssouthern...

Hey Drm... I know what you're feeling, to an extent. DH and I aren't fighters either, but the weeks up to the wedding it seemed we couldn't do anything BUT fight!! And we were so stressed, it seemed EVERYTHING was an arguing point. It definitely left us feeling confused and hurt and ready to just be done with it all. There are just so many things going on that it drains us and short and defensive. Many people agree that planning a wedding is great for couples, because it's probably the first time in your relationship where you have to make REALLY big decisions together and work together and compromise.

I'm sorry he's not wanting to help more and then saying hurtful things. It sounds as if he's hit his boiling point, he just can't do anymore. Which is unfair to you because you have enough on your plate as well. This is where the two of you really need to sit down and talk. Not just about wedding, but about the two of you. I know you said he's been bashing your relationship and you, you NEED to address this. He can't bail everytime something gets tough. Perhaps there is something else going on with him that's tipping him over the edge? Either way, if he wants this marriage to work, he needs to be able to sit down and have a serious conversation about what's going on. You both need to LISTEN to each other, let each other say what they are truly feeling without the other getting defensive right away, that's what leads to fights. You might consider talking to a counselor together, just for a third party that has no bias toward either one of you, to listen and offer advice.

You might also pick up a copy of "What no one tells the Bride" another poster started a thread about this book, and I bought it. I've been married for 4 months, but as I'm reading it I wished I had known about this book during the engagement too. It will carry you through your first few years of marriage too. It just helps you know that some of the things you are feeling are normal, you're not alone.

Also, about the FMIL, mine did the same thing with the guest list. Adding people a week before the wedding! At that point I was frazzled, and as much as I would have liked to defend myself and stand my ground, I let her add the people. They ended up not coming, so no harm done. But pick your battles. Weddings can make EVERYONE involved act crazy and it gets worse as the day gets closer it seems. But take a step back, re-evaluate your whole situation. Look at what is most pressing, what needs addressed first and start there. Let your FH deal with his mother, he can do this himself and it saves you the stress of doing it. YOu don't even need to tell him he needs to, just don't deal with her. Pass her questions and demands onto him. He can then man up and take care of the situation.

In the meantime, take a day for yourself. Get a massage, a lunch date with a friend, or do an activity you love. Just get out of the house, and do something relaxing and FUN for YOURSELF. Keep us updated, take a deep breath!!

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Agape14 Posts : 201 Registered: 12/31/08
Re: I'm not sure we will make it to October
Posted: Sep 1, 2009 11:02 AM Go to message in response to: Lilmisssouthern...

Before we got engaged we bought a house together and our first few weeks, maybe even the first couple of months, had some difficult times. I had lived with a previous bf before and it was so easy with him, so I never expected anything different. But for the first bit, FH and I fought about housework with a regularity and intensity that totally shocked me. But like that other ladies said, that stage passed. We've learned to accept (well maybe tolerate is more like it, lol) each other's styles and it's now just an occasional annoyance rather than a huge fight.


And similarly with wedding planning I've sometimes gotten annoyed that he drags his feet on the small tasks I've asked him to help with. But generally I have to say that it's just him not realizing that he should get going on it because of other deadlines that I have, not because he's being mean or uncaring. It would concern me though if my FH said some of the things that yours is saying or was acting the way yours is. When you're hurting or stressed you shouldn't have to hide it from your FH or tip toe around him so that he doesn't put you down and blame you for everything wrong in your relationship. That's just a recipe for resentment on your part. And while it's totally normal to spaz out on each other every now and then (it happens to the best of us), you should feel confident that you can both handle stress and conflict maturely and constructively for the most part. And if that's not the case, I'd advise getting outside help (pastor, counsellor, therapist) to show you different techniques for doing so. Because life is stressful even without a wedding, and the combination of work, kids, school, marriage etc is bound to bring up new stresses. Good luck!


 

 

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Lilmisssouthern... Posts : 658 Registered: 8/12/08
Re: I'm not sure we will make it to October
Posted: Sep 1, 2009 11:04 AM Go to message in response to: Brooke051609

Its not that he reached his boiling point and that he can't do anymore because he hasn't done much of anything. I literally mean that. The ONLY things he has done is, attend the food tasting with me and went to get fitted for his tux and to pick the guys tux out.

I tried to get him to go with me to register he didn't want to so I didn't force him.

His side of the story... Well you're right I can't give you that. He is willing to work on our relationship he's just being an asshole right now about it. Not sure why but he is. He is usually the calm one so I am not really used to the reversal.

As for me doing all of the work, I have done 98% of it alone. When I asked him to help tie ribbon for our gift bags for our candy buffet... it wasn't his thing. When I asked him to help me set up the wording for our invites it wasn't his thing until they were printed... When I started discussing the seating chart he was ok with helping but so far I got nothing. I just feel overwhlemed and I havr told him that. My problem comes when he bitches that he has been pushed to his stress point when he hasn't had a lot to do


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ArtBride Posts : 4,838 Registered: 5/9/07
Re: I'm not sure we will make it to October
Posted: Sep 1, 2009 11:11 AM Go to message in response to: Lilmisssouthern...

I think you both need to take a short break from the wedding stuff, and preferably from one another. If you don't live together, don't see each other for the rest of the week. If you do live together, give each other some space. Go out and enjoy this beautiful weather we're having in NoVA! Don't make a big deal about it, but take some time to cool off. Then you can re-approach the issue with a fresh perspective and cooler heads.

Being engaged wasn't an easy or particularly happy time of my life. I hated planning the wedding (mostly just the inconvenience of having to spend time on it) and I didn't particularly care about the details, so it was incredibly annoying to me that I had to deal with them, anyway. DH wasn't particuarly helpful, either. I love him, but he's not a go-getter. He'll sit around and talk about what he wants to do, but he won't research how to do it and he needs a major kick in the butt to get him to act on many things. Typically, we work very well as a team, since I'm the opposite. I LIKE researching things, making plans, and acting on them, so I get things started and motivate him to act. He reminds me to relax. We normally work incredibly well as a a team, but with the wedding, however, these individual tendencies bothered me for several reasons. Looking back, I can see why - but don't think for a moment that I had this level of clarity about it at the time. No way - it all seemed like a huge deal. Anyway, these things that I normally accept in DH bothered me at the time for a combination of the following reasons:

1) I had this idea in my head that engaged couples were supposed to be constantly happy. When DH annoyed me slightly, I'd get more annoyed than normal because I was stressing over why we were not constantly happy. Reality check: no one is constantly happy. Even if you're engaged, you're still entitled to have a bad day once in a while. And being human, we often take it out on our partners.

2) I had this crazy idea that happy engaged couples agree on everything wedding-related. So I really took it personally when DH and I disagreed - and when I say disagree, I mean that there were several times when our desires didn't belong on the same PLANET, let alone in the same wedding. Having this idea in my head, I got upset easier than normal and picked fights about things I would normally compromise on without a second thought.

3) The media, wedding magazines, and to some extent, the other brides on this website really make it seem normal that FH's are bending over backwards to help with wedding stuff. Yes, we get occassional posts from brides asking how to get their FH to help, and while people generally give good advice, there are also plenty of people who rave about how helpful their FH's are. That made me feel bad, when it shouldn't have. I knew DH very well before getting engaged and I knew how he plans stuff. I also knew how I approach planning. Before entering 'wedding world,' I expected our planning dynamics to be exactly the way they turned out - and I would have been Ok with that if I hadn't entered 'wedding world and talked to a bunch of women with FH's who like planning and researching stuff more than mine does. The reality with DH is that I have to motivate him.

4) To some extent, I think I was also evaluating DH. Yes, I had dated him for 7 years and was excited to marry him, but while we were engaged, there was a part of me that said, 'You can still get out.' Things that didn't bother me before getting engaged - such as me being the one to go online and read product reviews for hours and comparing prices at different retailers for a new TV, vs DH just driving to Best Buy and picking one that looks fancy - became more serious to me. Suddenly, we were not two people with different spending habits who could compromise - instead, I was viewing his differences in spending as a potential liability down the road when we shared finances. So I think that caused more fights/disagreements than we normally had as well. When it came to the wedding stuff, I thought to myself, 'Do I REALLY want to have to kick him in the butt like this to get him moving on stuff FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE?'

I wouldn't say that we had big blowouts or that we fought constantly, but we argued far more during our engagement than we ever have before or since, and I think the reasons stated above have a lot to do with that. Often, the arguements were about wedding stuff - at least, on the surface - but the reasons for the arguements were far deeper than, say, a disagreement about whether or not to get a shuttle bus for the guests.

Has this changed since the wedding? Oh, absolutely. I'm back to my normal self. (I say me because I really didn't notice much of a difference in DH - I think I was the one who was causing most of the problems for the above reasons) Am I annoyed that he doesn't like his job but he hasn't lifted a finger to find a new one? Sure I am - but it's not me who has to work there. Am I annoyed that he complains about his weight, but he hasn't made any lifestyle changes? Yep, but I'm setting a good example and he'll follow eventually. Am I annoyed that he likes to spend more than I do? Hell, yeah - but that one I can control. He has a spending budget. Not my fault if the thing he wants costs more than he has to spend on it - he'll just have to save his spending money and buy it later. So yes, the same things annoy me about him that annoyed me when we were dating and when we were engaged - but I'm back to accepting them, working within the limits of what I can do, motivating him where I can, and compromsing. I'm not fighting everything that bothered me like I was when we were engaged.

So my advice is to cool off for a few days and spend some time apart before revisiting the issue with a new perspective. Take that time to do some soul-searching. Why are you REALLY fighting? Is it really about the wedding? I know you mentioned that you're balancing school, work, a baby, etc - is there anything that can be cut out for a short time? If your FH isn't willing to help with the wedding stuff, could he pick up the slack somewhere else, like taking care of the baby or doing some of your normal household chores? Once I stopped being insane (about 3-4 months before our wedding), we reached a good agreement. DH recognized that I was doing a lot of work to make the wedding happen and that I was the better person to do that job - but he also saw how much work it was, so he took over the stuff that I normally do around the house (we typically split household chores - he just took my share). That was a HUGE help and I really appreciated it. Also, remember all those people who said, 'If you need help with anything, call me'? Now's the time to call in those favors.

Another option is to re-evaluate all this stuff that you're doing for your wedding. How much of it is really necessary? In the grand scheme of things, what is more important: that your DIY projects get done or that you have peace in your relationship? Evaluate every 'necessary' task on your to-do list and decide whether it's REALLY necessary or just 'bride-necessary.' Also evaluate your plans for getting the necessary tasks done. Do you really need to go see the florist in person to confirm your order? Nope - have them email it to you instead. Do you really need to meet with six DJs? Nope, if you like the first one, go with him. Simplify the rest of your planning as much as possible and you'll feel much better.

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Brooke051609 Posts : 723 Registered: 12/31/07
Re: I'm not sure we will make it to October
Posted: Sep 1, 2009 1:04 PM Go to message in response to: ArtBride

I totally agree with Artbride said.... for some reason, when we get engaged, we think that everything in life up to now wasn't reality, that our engagement should be TOTALLY different than what we've grown comfortable and happy with already. We think our engagment will be totally happy, fight free, and all fairy tail. I don't know WHY we think this, because it just isn't so. There will be many disagreements, fights even, hurt feelings, doubts, etc. And I felt I was the ONLY one, so something MUST be wrong with us and we're doomed to failure! Now that all that is over, it's MUCH better! Not to say that you're first year of marriage won't be filled with many disagreements and discussions as well, no matter how long you've dated, or if you've lived together before marriage. DH and I have been together 8 years and lived together for a few months before we got married. We have obstacles we have to talk through, argue through, and yes there has been a few tears on my part.... but we come back to each other and know we love each other. You just have to talk through it like you have all through your relationship.

Not knowing your FH, we can't really say much. However it does sound like he needs to man up, stop complaining, and help his bride to be. Yes, tying bows may not be his thing, it's not for most guys, but if he tells you he wants to help you out, he needs to follow through. I know I'm not telling you anything you don't already know, just had to throw in my two cents.

Maybe a night with the guys for him and a night with the girls for you might do you both a world of good. Take a breather, re-evalutate the real problems, and then come back refreshed and work out what the real issues are. Hang in there!!

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BenjaminsWife Posts : 1,069 Registered: 1/11/07
Re: I'm not sure we will make it to October
Posted: Sep 1, 2009 2:56 PM Go to message in response to: Brooke051609

I agree with Brooke.

If that's all he's done and he's complaining that much...maybe there's some other issue going on?

The last month before our wedding was stressful. DH was going to school full time and working and I had to put in an insane amout of over time at work. He still managed to find time to help me with the last minute details and put up with me being stressed beyond belief even though he had his own stress to deal with.

I think you and your FH need to step away and go away for a weekend and really talk this out. Is it possible he's having doubts about getting married?

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HappyGirl13 Posts : 1,298 Registered: 4/21/08
Re: I'm not sure we will make it to October
Posted: Sep 1, 2009 4:01 PM Go to message in response to: BenjaminsWife

Brooke and ArtBride both make good points. On one hand, even if tying bows is not your dude's thing, that isn't really the point. The point is you're stressed and he won't help. Is this a pattern? How many other places in your life are there that when you're stressed he doesn't help b/c it's "just not his thing"? Not trying to blow things out of proportion here, but I'm just wondering.

On the other hand, maybe you should also re-evaluate, as Art mentioned, how important certain things are to putting your wedding together. If FH has been great about the meat of things, like marriage counseling (I remember there was an issue with that at one point) and is generally great with you relationship-wise, maybe he just really isn't into the frills and bows and party-planning, and you can either choose to skip some of that stuff or face doing it yourself alone.

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Stephy77 Posts : 109 Registered: 9/2/08
Re: I'm not sure we will make it to October
Posted: Sep 1, 2009 5:09 PM Go to message in response to: HappyGirl13

I can't relate to the unhelpfulness my Husband did what I asked but I was even ticked that I had to ask, that I had to take all the initiative and do 90% of the work. You know what at the end of the night he said thank you we couldn't have had this day without you. it made it worth it and I hope you get the same result in the end.

We actually talked about it the other night and I said boy was I crazy the month before the wedding and he laughed and said that it would've been worse if he hadn't taken my advice. I said what advice he said when you told me keep quiet & stay out of my way this month LOL

Can you imagine?

So my point is that last month is hell no matter what. if you were solid beofre you will be solid after.
best of luck to you both, I agree with PP everyone has this fairytale image of "being engaged" you don't step out of reality and let's face it life is filled with happiness and challenges planning a future together and a wedding, no different.

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brownegirl Posts : 523 Registered: 10/14/08
Re: I'm not sure we will make it to October
Posted: Sep 1, 2009 7:56 PM Go to message in response to: Lilmisssouthern...

Hi Drm. The month before the wedding, DH and I moved in together. We were at each other's throats about everything from tulle to toothpaste. What made me crazy was that I had to keep up with all of the appointments and follow up with vendors and take care of last minute details but he could never remember a single solitary detail. He would always look at me and go "Babe, when..or where .. or how much?" It drove me absolutely nuts!!! He is generally helpful and he assured me he wanted to help but I practically had to nag him to do anything.

At one point I was convinced that we should just call the whole thing off. Well, five weeks after the wedding we are good. The pressure is off. I mean, we still argue but it doesn't feel like life or death. This could be what is happening to you guys right now. Men get stressed out but they don't really talk about it. I'd give him some time to cool off ( and take some time to rest, because you sound totally stressed) and then see how things go. If he still keeps blowing up like this, then I'd get worried.

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Lilmisssouthern... Posts : 658 Registered: 8/12/08
Re: I'm not sure we will make it to October UPDATE
Posted: Sep 2, 2009 9:33 AM Go to message in response to: brownegirl

Ok.... I took all of the advice and I made a decision on how I wanted to handle this and what it all meant.

I got off of work yesterday at 12:30 and went out for a few hours alone. No one with me. I put my phone on vibrate and just ignored it. I went shopping, I walked around, and I bought 2 gold fish (thats another story entirely I think my emotions made me feel bad for them so I bought them and got a HUGE tank for them to swim their little goldfish hearts out...)

I came to the conclusion about MY feelings. I obvioulsy can not decide how he feels but I could figure out mine. I realized my frustration with us fighting was for afew reasons. 1*Because we are fighting... I hate fighting. It upset me. 2*Because I feel like where he is usually the most supportive and affectionate person he has all of sudden become grouchy and irritating. 3* I am stressed out because of everything and it is causing my emotions to make things seem so much worse than they are. A little fight has turned into a relationship ending circumstance in my head where it likes to play out all the scenarios.

I talked to my best friend after my afternoon out and I told her what I was going through and how I felt and everything. She said she went through the same thing because her fiance out right refused to help plan their wedding.

I came home and I was calmer. When Brandon came home I told him that I think we should talk. The look on his face was pure devastation. He thought that I didn't want to marry him anymore. Once I explained myself he relaxed. I told him that it isn't fair that I should be the only one to be working on the stressful parts of the wedding. I know that it isn't "his thing" but that doesn't mean he shouldn't help. I explained that to me he was being selfish and uncaring because he wasn't helping with the things that I needed help on. And that while I would love to only work on the fun stuff too that isn't how it works. I told him that with work school and the wedding it can become way overwhelming and make me feel even more emotional. I told him if he wanted more time for just us and no wedding that he would need to help me on things he may not like but that would give me more time to spend with him.

He told me he felt left out to begin with, that everything was done without him doing it and he figured that I didn't need him. I told him that the ONLY thing he was left out on was the flowers because he hated the idea of the florist. He agreed and realized that I had in fact asked him to help me with EVERY part but that he wasn't interested.

I told him that by him blowing up and saying hurtful things to me it damages our closeness. And right now we need that. He agreed with a lot of what I had to say and I guess after talking to one of our groomsmen who happens to not even be married or dating he realized what an ass he was being. His friend told him that this is going to be one of the most hectic/ stressful times we will go through. But that we love each other and that he SHOULD be helping no matter what it is even if it meant tying bows until midnight. He told Brandon that there are ways to make it not so bad like doing while watching sports. Or something. his friend knows I don't care about the bows being perfect so he was offering ways to get it done without really having to focus directly on that He also told him that if he wanted me to stress out less that he should pick up some of the work without being asked because as he put it "Now that you blew up at her for asking for your help she isn't going to want to ask you anymore".

He asked for a list of things he could do with or without me to help and I gave him some.

I appreciate the advice so much from everyone I really do. I was just at a loss. I was not used to him being that way because he is usually very helpful. He helps with the household chores and things like that without me even mentioning it. But for some reason this wedding planning stuff was not for him. I get it that guys are like that but it was more his words that were hurtful. I do believe his apology was sincere. And we are going to work from here....

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Brooke051609 Posts : 723 Registered: 12/31/07
Re: I'm not sure we will make it to October UPDATE
Posted: Sep 2, 2009 10:03 AM Go to message in response to: Lilmisssouthern...

Drm Im SOO happy to hear that things are looking up! And that you both could have a discussion about what TRULY is going on and how you feel! I love your part about the goldfish! haha Keep us updated!!

oh yeah, I've noticed you're wearing an Ohio State hat in your picture? Are you a Buckeye fan??

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