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Lilmisssouthern... Posts : 658 Registered: 8/12/08
Re: marriage and a deployment
Posted: Aug 20, 2009 12:15 PM Go to message in response to: GIJinj

WOW! Allison- Sorry that all of that shit got started... I will PM you with my advice as I am not even going to attempt to discuss it on here with those two....

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GIJinj Posts : 2 Registered: 8/20/09
Re: marriage and a deployment
Posted: Aug 20, 2009 12:35 PM Go to message in response to: allisonfoster2B

Okay... since apparently I was too mean -- let me try it this way.

Allison, it isn't easy being a military family -- especially when both members of a couple are in the service. We make sacrifices that no one else can understand, but you will need to have some thick skin and be tough if you are going to make it in the military and have a successful marriage.

You unit will not take into account if/when your husband is deployed. It is not their concern - if they are at strength and you are on the list be professional and do your duty.

Easy? No.
Your job? Yes.

Next, you've got a PM.

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sbrushy Posts : 1 Registered: 9/11/08
Re: marriage and a deployment
Posted: Aug 20, 2009 12:47 PM Go to message in response to: GIJinj

Honey I'm not going to one up you, but I will say that I've been in a very similar situation. The end of his deployment is now nearing and we've been married almost a year. Now my unit wants to send me on deployment next February. Is it fair? Am I happy? No. But I love my job in the military and I love my husband and he loves his job in the military, I'm not going to take that away from either of us.
Keep yourself busy, make sure you have good open communication, put on your Big Girl Panties and drive on. You will be fine.

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allisonfoster2B Posts : 65 Registered: 5/9/09
Re: marriage and a deployment
Posted: Aug 24, 2009 5:00 PM Go to message in response to: sbrushy

OPSEC!? Really. don't be giving me that BS. Im a freaking security forces member...sp, or mp. what ever you wanna call it. I've been in a few years now, im not stupid. i know what opsec is. The date he left the base is not his report date. Second our particular base deploys year round!!!! It could be one of the many locations! I gave nothing away!

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DoesntPlayNice Posts : 809 Registered: 12/17/08
Re: marriage and a deployment
Posted: Aug 24, 2009 5:20 PM Go to message in response to: allisonfoster2B

I deployed exactly 1 month after I got married and was gone for the first 1 year and 3 months of my marraige. My husband just joined the Marines and was gone for 3 months and will leave for another 3, then after a few months he plans to volunteer for deployment. You need to find a hobby really to stay sane.

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Bally Posts : 355 Registered: 9/25/08
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Posted: Aug 25, 2009 8:17 AM Go to message in response to: DoesntPlayNice

All this hoopla about posting a name and date? Like the taliban are trawling through brides.com to see what intelligence they can gather?? 'Oooh look Muhammad, this bride's colours are teal and ivory' or 'what kind of bustle should I have on my bisht?' or 'is it etiquette hell to have the same coloured abaya as the bride??'


Damn, I love being politically incorrect.


  

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Heidibride30 Posts : 1,201 Registered: 4/16/08
Re: marriage and a deployment
Posted: Aug 25, 2009 8:47 AM Go to message in response to: Bally

Bally, just make sure that the linens match the bride's burkha! ;)

To the OP, yes it's going to be very hard, but I have to agree with some of the other posters that this is what you signed up to do. I thank you for your service, but you had to understand when you joined that the needs of the military would be put before the needs of the individual. And there are a lot more opportunities to keep in touch now than there used to be. When my FH was in the army, he was deployed to Bosnia for a year. There was no internet and very few phone calls. He relied on letters to and from his family. He gets very upset when the men and women today get so upset about deployments because to him, it's so much better than it was 20 years ago when he was in.

 

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FrancieElaine Posts : 655 Registered: 6/26/09
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Posted: Aug 25, 2009 10:58 AM Go to message in response to: Bally

snicker... snicker... giggle.. you are funny!

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MrsRicecake Posts : 701 Registered: 2/2/08
Re: marriage and a deployment
Posted: Aug 25, 2009 4:27 PM Go to message in response to: Bally

LOL! Bally you are hiliarious and totally spot on! If this was a place where everyone was military than maybe you should watch what youre saying, but really brides.com?

Is there a way to ask to be considered non-deployable? This is something my brother was considering when my SIL was supposed to be deployed the week after he was supposed to get back (for her I mean). It would be something in admin. I know that my DH's Gunny's wife is in an admin job so she wont deploy. Just a thought. It sucks. I kinda understand wher you are coming from b/c DH will be gone for all of our firsts as a married couple...Thanksgiving, Christmas and our first anniversary. It sucks but such is the life!

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