SETTING UP

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ADazzlingEvent Posts : 69 Registered: 4/24/08
SETTING UP
Posted: Jul 13, 2009 4:47 PM

HELLO LADIES,

I JUST WANTED TO ASK YOU ALL A QUESTION. HAS ANYONE EVER WENT TO THEIR RECEPTION VENUE TO SET IT UP ON THEIR OWN? THE REASON I AM ASKING IS BECAUSE I AM THINKING ABOUT GOING TO SET MY OWN VENUE UP BECAUSE I AM VERY ANAL AND I WANT SPECIFIC THINGS IN SPECIFIC PLACES AND I AM SCARED THAT THE VENUE WILL NOT SET EVERYTHING UP RIGHT. DO I SOUND LIKE A LUNATIC? I AM JUST SO NERVOUS!

2 months and counting!!

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ArtBride Posts : 4,838 Registered: 5/9/07
Re: SETTING UP
Posted: Jul 13, 2009 5:10 PM Go to message in response to: ADazzlingEvent

No way! Pay someone to do it! Assuming that your venue has a banquet coordinator (or you have a wedding coordinator), it is his/her job to get the details perfect - trust him/her to do so. If you're really anal, put detailed instructions into writing for the people who will be setting up. If you're REALLY anal, send a family member or friend to check on things.

You're going to have plenty of things you'd rather do on your wedding day than set up the venue. Enjoy yourself - don't WORK on your own wedding. That's why you're paying a lot of people a lot of money. Even if you can set the venue up the day before, you'll have your rehearsal, last minute details to see to, and family in town. ENJOY YOURSELF - don't spend your time working!

Anyway, to answer your question, no I didn't set up my own wedding. I trusted that the people I was paying to do their jobs would do them well. And they did. I have, however, been involved in several weddings where the bride (with help from family or the WP) set everything up. It was HORRIBLE! It was stressful, the brides regretted doing it themselves, the grooms just wanted to hang out with their OOT friends and family, and the WP - those who even showed up - were miserable. I was a BM in one wedding where we set everything up earlier in the day. Well, it was an outdoor wedding and I have allergies. By the time we left the venue to get ready, I was miserable and didn't even want to ATTEND the wedding, let alone get my hair done, put on a dress, and do so with a smile on my face. Honestly, I really don't think it's a good idea to set things up yourself. Have your vendors take care of it and spend your time RELAXING, rather than stressing about the details.

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carebearny1999 Posts : 1,253 Registered: 9/21/07
Re: SETTING UP
Posted: Jul 13, 2009 6:11 PM Go to message in response to: ADazzlingEvent

I didn't set up my own, the venue did it for me! I DID set up my brother/sister-in-law's reception and I can say they were VERY lucky I made it to the ceremony! It took WAY longer than I had allowed for (I was anal about getting those bows "just right" on the chair covers) and I ended up with 25 minutes to shower and change. (NOT my ideal amount of time!) I gave VERY detailed instructions to the venue when I got married and honestly--I didn't have time to notice if everything was where it should be! Actually, the only thing I DID notice was that they forgot to leave me a chair in the waiting to go down the aisle area! (Which I requested several times, and in writing!) Luckily a groomsman helped me out and grabbed a chair! Save yourself the trouble and stress!

 

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Knoxvegas Posts : 951 Registered: 9/12/07
Re: SETTING UP
Posted: Jul 14, 2009 12:05 PM Go to message in response to: carebearny1999

All I gave the venue was a table set up chart (with numbers), my choice of flowers and directions for the escort cards and cake. I did not see it until we walked in. I figure we paid several thousand for our coordinator so I trusted her judgment.

Being anal about the reception is ok, but not to the point of panic if something is not exactly right. Put in writing what you want. But I will caution you not to go too far. I consider too far that "exactly six red petals must be evenly spaced on the mirror but not in a circle." Understand?

 

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sillymonkey Posts : 48 Registered: 4/6/08
Re: SETTING UP
Posted: Jul 14, 2009 4:13 PM Go to message in response to: ADazzlingEvent

Hey we're getting married on the same day. My venue is letting us come in the night prior to set up since they don't have it booked that night. I don't have a coordinator but the reception site they would do it for me. At the very least I am setting up one table and they can do the rest. I figure they have a visualization of how to get it done. And I will set up the head table. The day of the wedding I will have a close friend/family (a person that will be with me the day before so they know how I want things) check things and make sure everything is in place prior to my arrival. I don't think its silly at all. In fact I know a lot of brides that have done it (mostly the day prior). Just know you can only control so much and do so much. Check with your hall and see if you can come in the day prior. Otherwise put someone you trust to oversee it or review it with the coordinator. Good luck and best wishes on your day.

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LilTuffGirl Posts : 301 Registered: 11/4/08
Re: SETTING UP
Posted: Jul 14, 2009 8:26 PM Go to message in response to: sillymonkey

hah I have 2 hours before the wedding to set my stuff up. I can't afford to pay anyone so I don't have anyone. Well I do have my FMIL and my mom along with my BM. I'm pretty sure my FMIL will take over and get things done since thats just how she is. If she knows someone needs help she steps up BIG time! I asked her about flowers and once I told her I have NO clue about them I just want blue and white she has pretty much taken over and has already gotten a bunch of stuff. Her and her mother use to own a flower shop so I think this is something she really enjoys. And it helps I trust her.

I feel bad having others do things for free but I kind of do hope me or my BM wont have to do much since we'll have our hair and makeup and nails to worry about. Plus i'm sure she's going to show up in her dress (I'll probably change there)

Thankfully i'm having a small wedding... We're going to have to put the archway together at the house though... wont have enough time to do it there. Should be interesting. Good thing it's going to be silk flowers.

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