Only 2 and a 1/2 months to plan heeelp

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Nicole21886 Posts : 2 Registered: 7/2/09
Only 2 and a 1/2 months to plan heeelp
Posted: Jul 2, 2009 10:57 PM

The groom is graduating from USMC boot camp September 4th 2009. Only 10 days from that to have wedding so time is limited. I need to know the cheapest way possible to do this. They have to pay for it on there own with little money at all. By the way I am the grooms sister and will be doing all the planning myself along with the bride. Can anyone help??

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MagicalMomentsP... Posts : 742 Registered: 3/6/06
Re: Only 2 and a 1/2 months to plan heeelp
Posted: Jul 3, 2009 12:05 AM Go to message in response to: Nicole21886

The least expensive way to get married is with a JOP at the court house. If they want to get a little fancier, they can elope to Las Vegas. Although I'm not sure how that works because what happens there, stays there.... (lol).

Now if you are considering a more formal wedding, then there will be costs involved. Most of the cost is related to the reception and the number of guests invited. To keep the costs down, you might want to consider a backyard BBQ wedding.

We could be more helpful if you can provide a budget and an idea of the type of wedding they couple would like.

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: Only 2 and a 1/2 months to plan heeelp
Posted: Jul 3, 2009 12:23 AM Go to message in response to: Nicole21886

dear Nicole,

What do you have in mind?

The absolute cheapest way is to pay for a marriage license at the courthouse, then get married there. They usually charge a nominal fee for a ceremony.

If you want a more traditional ceremony, with invited guests, then you'd have to give us a bit more to go on. How many guests? What kind of budget?

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Nicole21886 Posts : 2 Registered: 7/2/09
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Posted: Jul 3, 2009 2:16 AM Go to message in response to: MagicalMomentsP...

They only probably have a few hundred (im going to try to talk some family members in to pitching in with some of the cost and try to do as much as possible on my own when it comes to decor, invites, ect) but want to have a reception and a small wedding (with grooms and brides mades) with close friends and family so id say less than 50 people will attend the reception. i think they are leaning more towards a marine theme but its hard to tell because we have to write to him and it takes forever to get a reply plus they are both young (18) and indecisive lol. A BBQ is a great idea so let me know if you can think of anything else

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: Only 2 and a 1/2 months to plan heeelp
Posted: Jul 3, 2009 10:16 AM Go to message in response to: Nicole21886

Dear Nicole,

"young (18) and indecisive "

What's the rush? Some would say 18 is too young to get married, especially if they are "indeciisive".

At any rate, you'll have to talk to the family members and nail down what each person is prepared to do. Next, line up an officiant, look up marriage license requirements in your county so bride and groom will have passed any waiting period between the time of application and W-Day.

Figure on a guest list, and a cost per head.

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passion32 Posts : 34 Registered: 6/23/09
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Posted: Jul 3, 2009 11:02 AM Go to message in response to: Nicole21886

As previously stated a JOP at the courthouse would be easiest. 21/2 months is not long and some dresses you have to order up to 3 months in advance same with cakes and other services. There are alot of father daughter dance, music,decisions,location, indoor, outdoor, formal informal, what kind of flowers, invitations, favors, decorations, color schemes, food services, linens, dinnerware whether it's served or potluck, tables, chairs ect. to name a few. I have a year and 2 months and I'm stressed with all the decisions and I have 30 people coming. The JOP may be sounding good right about now wishing you lots of luck and let us know if you can pull it off.
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Soon2bWellsFargo Posts : 125 Registered: 4/29/09
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Posted: Jul 3, 2009 11:28 AM Go to message in response to: passion32

I would go with a small backyard wedding, with a few friends and family. If that is not an option maybe a something at your church with a cake and punch reception in the fellowship hall. I doubt if you will be able to put together anything really elaborate in your limited amount of time. You can do something really nice in a couple of months.


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simplebride2 Posts : 33 Registered: 4/17/09
Re: Only 2 and a 1/2 months to plan heeelp
Posted: Jul 3, 2009 11:05 PM Go to message in response to: Nicole21886

I agree with PPs. A backyard-type wedding and reception would be cheapest. You could do a lot of variations on it as far as who/how many are invited to wedding itself and to reception.

My fiance and I are getting married on the family farm with only immediate family and grandparents present. Then we are inviting more family and friends to a local park for a catered dinner and back to the farm at night for a bonfire for adults wishing to continue the party. If you wanted to skip the catering costs, maybe family members could contribute by doing a sort of potluck.

One of my cousins got married at a park in his area with immediate fam, aunts/uncles and grandparents present then had a catered meal for just that group.

I think whatever you do, keeping the guestlist small will be the key. Food becomes expensive quickly whether you cater or make it yourself.

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myra Posts : 5,550 Registered: 3/28/06
Re: Only 2 and a 1/2 months to plan heeelp
Posted: Jul 3, 2009 11:42 PM Go to message in response to: Nicole21886

PP's are right, a courthouse ceremony definitely is the least expensive and least complicated way to go. Everyone could go out to dinner afterward (if you don't want the hassle of food prep yourselves). It doesn't have to be expensive--see the end of the Sex and the City movie. Carrie and Big get married at City Hall and go out for pizza with their friends afterward. And everyone is happy!
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Jream Posts : 157 Registered: 7/29/08
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Posted: Jul 4, 2009 6:03 PM Go to message in response to: myra

What I want to know is, why do they feel the need to get married so soon, and why do you have to plan everything? The bride isn't planning anything? Why not just stay engaged for a little longer so they can plan this a little better? I'm sorry if I missed something, that's just what stuck out to me.

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Nalamienea Posts : 2,924 Registered: 6/13/08
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Posted: Jul 5, 2009 7:47 AM Go to message in response to: Jream

jream: i would understand if some people don't want the long drawn out engagement, it was a pain in the butt to me. I was engaged for 11 months and I would have liked to shorten that by half!! :)

 

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saranic0le Posts : 20 Registered: 12/19/08
Re: Only 2 and a 1/2 months to plan heeelp
Posted: Jul 5, 2009 9:30 AM Go to message in response to: Nicole21886

I went to a wedding almost a month ago in my hometown. It was very small and set at the lake front of the lake in the town. The venue cost nothing because it was a public park. There was maybe 50 people at most. And the food following was potluck from the family. It was very nice. Family took pictures. They printed off simple invites off the computer and hand delivered...etc. There are ways to enjoy a nice wedding without breaking the bank!

 

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Jade1107 Posts : 205 Registered: 9/1/07
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Posted: Jul 5, 2009 11:16 AM Go to message in response to: saranic0le

If the Bride is thinking she wants something a bit more elaborate than JOP, there are ways to do it. Some PP's have suggested backyard or park receptions and I think this is a lovely idea. If you have a potluck type reception, you could just specifiy what you'd like people to bring (ie. include "dessert" or "main" or "beverages" in the invitations; maybe specifiy that it's a bbq/potluck).

Also, if the bride wants a pretty dress, she can very likely get one "off the rack" at a bridal salon, or, for something less expensive, she might consider purchasing a pretty white dress from JC Penny, or Macy's or wherever. Some Brides like to have this simple white dress for the rehearsal dinner but the pretty long dresses are in style now so she should be able to find something nice for the ceremony.

The BM's and GM can wear something they already have and if there is a theme, you should be able to get inexpensive centerpieces etc. from a dollar store.

Best option is to keep it small! Good Luck!

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lulling Posts : 10 Registered: 7/9/09
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Posted: Jul 9, 2009 2:34 AM Go to message in response to: Nicole21886

contact your local courts (common pleas, municipal, juvenile, domestic relations). Where I live you can pay a judge 50-100 to do a ceremony at your site. If you have a backyard wedding you could get them to come there and do it live in front of everyone (as opposed to having the ceremony at the court and then having all of the people at the reception). then you could have a full ceremony and backyard picnic style reception all in one place and everyone would be able to witness the wedding.

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TheresalovesSte... Posts : 18 Registered: 7/13/09
Re: Only 2 and a 1/2 months to plan heeelp
Posted: Jul 13, 2009 3:32 PM Go to message in response to: lulling

Don't do it at the courthouse!!!!! I went to a wedding at a courthouse for my FH's best friend from high school. The bride was from Haiti. Her mom couldn't make it, so they spent a few minutes trying to get her mother on the phone to hear the ceremony. The guy who married them was AWFUL! He was VERY rude, acted like they were wasting his time, and was a total killjoy! He kept complaining about the time they were wasting... OMG!

My suggestion is to do it at a friend's house. Paying a pastor of your church or a minister of some kind isn't very expensive. That way you can decorate a little, be at a place that is comfortable with both of you and you won't go through what my FH's friend did!

Good luck and congrats
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