A Friendly Forum for Young Brides.

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CountryPrincess Posts : 673 Registered: 9/25/08
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Posted: Mar 14, 2009 6:35 PM Go to message in response to: NessaRae615

Nessa: I'm really sorry your house hunting had to get put on hold. But just think of it this way: if you can save money you'll be able to afford a nicer house. That way you don't have to settle for a house that is just "okay", you'll be able to get one you really love. 3oh!3 is from Boulder. I loveee them.

"I don't care how much it hurts. I don't care if its a brick wall disaster. I'd rather fight with you everday than be happy for one second with anyone else." <3

Kevin & Mari: 11/09/06 to Forever.

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Autumnalis2010 Posts : 133 Registered: 1/12/09
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Posted: Mar 14, 2009 7:43 PM Go to message in response to: CountryPrincess

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EliseKenny09 Posts : 14 Registered: 10/29/07
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Posted: Mar 14, 2009 8:40 PM Go to message in response to: Autumnalis2010

Autumn: It was orange and brown and yellow....really fallish. It was beautiful yet really simple.

Just a side note, if anyone needs any advice about cakes, I took a bunch of decorating classes so I can tell you things honestly about cakes and pricing :)

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audra2013 Posts : 145 Registered: 6/18/08
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Posted: Mar 14, 2009 10:00 PM Go to message in response to: EliseKenny09

KJ: Ya like I said I'm more wierded out that its supposed to be bad luck. But I really think its funny! I'm a little disappointed that your MOH turned you down again. I thought she would come around since she was jealous of your new BM. Oh well, her loss.

Elise: Welcome! I was looking at your pic and you are so stunning! I love your idea for a desert reception. I wanted to do that my MIL and Mother thought the idea was unrealistic and didn't cater to the guests enough. But after we decided not to do it, I saw the idea alll over bridal magazines and the etiquette specialists said it was perfectly acceptable, so I say do it!

Nessa: I'm sorry you're having a hard time with house hunting and your FH. I hope it gets better for you soon. Is there anything I can help you with? Josh and I are supposed to be working on our playlist right now as well, maybe I can help find you some songs? We're also working on ceremony flow and reception flow, if there's anyway I can help with that I would love to! Oh I guess I should introduce myself. I'm Audra, my FH is Josh. We're getting married June 13 and I'm freaking out. I'm so impatient for it to finally happen!

Autumn: Woah his dad doesn't know? Definitely keep us updated on how that goes over! Man they sound like difficult people to get along with! On a better note, I LOVE the second ring you posted. I think it will look fabulous with a cushion cut and I don't think it will overwhelm your finger.

I'm really really frustrated with Josh right now. Like I said he stole my ex BM's number out of my phone and said he's going to call her to go off on her. I have asked him 3 times not to. Each time I've told him that it will only cause the rift between her and I to grow even more, it will multiply her anger towards me 10 times over, it will make me seem immature(she'll think I put him up to it), and it will cause her to contact me and cause more drama for me. Plus nothing he says to her will sink in because it may as well be coming out of my mouth. He refuses to listen to me! I've even told him that I would never take one of his friendships into my own hands like this. Finally in a desperate attempt to get him to change his mind I told him that it feels like he's choosing her over me (not in a good way for her) but he's putting his need to go off on her above my feelings on the situation. What hurts the most is he doesn't even care about defending me he just wants to "punish" her. I'm really upset. I don't know what to say to get thru to him. Am I overreacting? Should I just let him do whatever?




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CountryPrincess Posts : 673 Registered: 9/25/08
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Posted: Mar 14, 2009 10:31 PM Go to message in response to: audra2013

Autumn: Oh my goodness his family would drive me nuts! The only "bad" in law I have is Kevin's dad. I could go on FOREVER about all his crap. But we'll just keep at this: he's a 45 year old deadbeat who basically abandoned both his kids and thinks the world owes him something. I really have nothing to say/no advice to give. All I can say is don't let their ignorant behavior ruin your good trip to FL.

Audra: I would not let Josh call your BM. That's pretty childish and will just add fuel to the fire. I would be pissed if Kevin did something like that. He is always getting annoyed at my MOH because of her crap. But he knows not to butt in since it would just make it all so much worse.


I just took a 2 hour name and I still feel crappy :( ughh.

"I don't care how much it hurts. I don't care if its a brick wall disaster. I'd rather fight with you everday than be happy for one second with anyone else." <3

Kevin & Mari: 11/09/06 to Forever.

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TrustLove Posts : 73 Registered: 3/7/08
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Posted: Mar 15, 2009 12:25 PM Go to message in response to: CountryPrincess

Good Morning Girls!

Elise: Welcome. Your wedding is coming up soon, very exciting. I'm Chaye , ill be 20 in April and FH is 20. We have been engaged for two years now. FH is going to propose again soon (hopefully this summer or sooner) and we will be getting married a year from when he proposes again. We will be having a very small intimate wedding (just FH and I) on Butterfly Beach in Santa Barbara. I really like your idea of having a desert reception. I think you should go for it. How did your FH propose?

Nessa: Sorry to hear that you had to put house hunting on hold for now. Lets us know how the cake meeting on Monday goes. What is ceremony/reception flow?

Autumn. OMG that's ridiculous. I can't believe all the things his parents are saying. I know it hard especially with them always interjecting but try not to let them bother you. They obviously don't know and you really don't need to deal with their ignorance. By the way I love the second ring it's absolutely gorgeous, I love the vintage look and all the detail. I think a cushion cut would look fabulous.

Audra: I don't think you are overreacting at all. I think him calling would just make matters worst. Hopefully he will realize that.

KJ: I hope you feel better.

Ok so I know this might sound ridiculous but here it goes. So last night I found out from FH's brother that this girl we know is getting married in two weeks. Now the girl who is getting married has had a really bumpy relationship with her soon to be husband and she has cheated on him a few times with my FH's brother. She still has feelings for my FH's brother and I'm shocked she is marring this other guy. I know it shouldn't be bothering me that she is getting married before I am but it does. It's like I have this amazing relationship with my FH and we've been engaged for so long now and her she is cheating and in this relationship with a guy who doesn't treat her that well, but she still getting married. I don't know. I'm just so ready to marry Mena and the waiting is really getting to me.

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EliseKenny09 Posts : 14 Registered: 10/29/07
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Posted: Mar 15, 2009 1:14 PM Go to message in response to: TrustLove

Audra: Thanks! I think we're going to have a picinic/barbecue kind of recpetion with summery foods like chicken and fruit. It will be fun!
When it comes to your FH, I don't think you're overreacting at all. If you dealt with it, then it is not his place to get involved. If you want my FH's opinion (which I disagree with) he's saying that he just wants to stick up for you and take care of you. He said it's just the natural guy thing to do if he see's the girl he loves hurting to fix it.
But you said that's not the case? I think you have every reason to be mad.

KJ: I hope you feel better as well!

TrustLove: Thanks for the welcome! Your name is really pretty, FYI lol. That is a long time to be engaged! I don't know if I could wait a minute longer. I'm getting really excited for our wedding. We just ordered our wedding rings, they're titanium. As to your predicament, I would be upset too. No offense, but that marriage doesn't sound like it will start off too strongly.

Autumn: You have THE smallest finger!

We finally got our rings. I don't know how to post them, or I would. They're titanium. I'm really excited to get them and I'm going nuts waiting. Everything just keeps getting closer and closer and I'm getting more excited every day. There's a lot to do though, and I know I'm annoying Kenny with everything. Haha that's what you are all here for :)
And I put some pictures of me and my gorgeous Kenny up :)

Edited by: EliseKenny09 on Mar 15, 2009 1:30 PM

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Autumnalis2010 Posts : 133 Registered: 1/12/09
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Posted: Mar 15, 2009 1:48 PM Go to message in response to: EliseKenny09

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TrustLove Posts : 73 Registered: 3/7/08
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Posted: Mar 15, 2009 2:58 PM Go to message in response to: Autumnalis2010

Elise: Thank you, it's French. I don't think the marriage is going to be starting off too strongly either. That is so exciting you picked out your rings, when you can post pictures. What I do is add the pictures to photobucket and then copy and paste into the reply post.

Autumn: I definitely am so happy with Mena's and I relationship and wouldn't change it for the world. As far as talking our parents we haven't officially told them we are engaged, (waiting for the second proposal before we tell them). I think my parents knows we will eventually get married sometimes when my mom talks about the future she implies it like she'll say when you and Mena have kids, or I'll give you my bread pudding recipe (which is Mena's favorite) when you guys get married.. As far as his parents I'm pretty sure they know already. Mena comes from a family where the marriages are usually arranged. And I remember when we had been together around a year his dad came back from a trip to Egypt and asked Mena if he was interested in having an arranged marriage with a girl that his dad had found in Egypt and Mena said no I'm really happy with Chaye', etc etc. And so I'm pretty positive they know we are planning on getting married, just waiting for us to tell them officially. They even call me Egyptian. I can't wait for us to get married.

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CountryPrincess Posts : 673 Registered: 9/25/08
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Posted: Mar 15, 2009 3:57 PM Go to message in response to: TrustLove

Autumn: The second ring is very beautiful. The only thing I would be worried about is finding a wedding band. That ring has a lot of side detail which will get covered by an wedding ring. Also, sometimes the rings that have side detail with a more pronounced diamond on top actually can not have a wedding ring that fits/matches. You end up with this silly gap between the two rings that makes them obviously not look like a set. The only reason I bring these things up is I thought I was in love with this one ring because of all the side details like yours. Then I tried it on and the woman showed me how hard it would be to have a good wedding band with it. I don't know if yours will be like that but I thought I should let you know.

Trust: I would be irritated too. Someone I know is getting married this May and I'm so irritated by it because of their relationship.

Is that it? Hope so.

"I don't care how much it hurts. I don't care if its a brick wall disaster. I'd rather fight with you everday than be happy for one second with anyone else." <3

Kevin & Mari: 11/09/06 to Forever.

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Autumnalis2010 Posts : 133 Registered: 1/12/09
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Posted: Mar 15, 2009 4:17 PM Go to message in response to: CountryPrincess

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CountryPrincess Posts : 673 Registered: 9/25/08
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Posted: Mar 15, 2009 4:23 PM Go to message in response to: Autumnalis2010

Autumn: Yes, my ring is the heart shaped one. Luckily there's no detail right underneath the heart and the matching wedding band fits perfectly with it. If your's comes in a wedding set, there's a good chance it will look fine. All the trouble I had was with the ones that are just sold as the e-ring and you have to find the wedding band later. I imagine if its a set, like mine is, then the company makes it so that the two fit together.

"I don't care how much it hurts. I don't care if its a brick wall disaster. I'd rather fight with you everday than be happy for one second with anyone else." <3

Kevin & Mari: 11/09/06 to Forever.

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audra2013 Posts : 145 Registered: 6/18/08
Re: A Friendly Forum for Young Brides.
Posted: Mar 15, 2009 4:25 PM Go to message in response to: CountryPrincess

Trust: I was having the same issue for ahwile. When we were (finally!) engaged ( after waiting 2 years for it) I had to go to and hear of about 4-5 weddings of semi close friends, all of them hadn't been together more than a year total by the time they got married. It was really frustrating for me. Then a friend snapped me out of it. She told me I was being really selfish and that just because their situations allowed for them to get married earlier doesn't mean I should be jealous. She showed me that the root of the problem was me not being happy waiting for Josh. It really helped me focus on being happy (like Autumn said) with how our relationship is right now, waiting and all! Believe me I feel you though! You're stronger than I am being able to wait that long. I can't wait for you to have your day.

Elise: I love the summery foods idea! And I really appreciate the input from your FH. I thought he was doing it to defend but one time I made a comment about how sweet it was he wanted to defend me... then he interrupted and said something along the lines of Well sorta but she needs to be told how badly she treats people and what a selfish bitch she is. Something like that. So by him skipping over the defending me part I figured he didn't care about it. I'm wondering now if its just another one of those stupid things guys don't mean to say or mean to say in a different way? Ugh soo frustrating. It's causing so much tension between us right now.

Autumn: I love the set, they look good together!

Man so our pastor is doing this series pretty much based off that Love and Respect book (which is really good). And Josh and I have discovered that we're on what's called the crazy cycle where he feels disrespected so he stops showing me love and I feel unloved so I stop respecting him. Its making me nervous! We're starting to work on it but still, that's a big deal to me.






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CountryPrincess Posts : 673 Registered: 9/25/08
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Posted: Mar 15, 2009 4:33 PM Go to message in response to: audra2013

Audra: I have been BEGGING Kevin to read that book! But he's basically refusing to because he has absolutely no interest in reading. Today I started crying because I had to go to church by myself. Kevin and I had gotten in a fight right before church so he said he wasn't going. Which I thoguht was selfish because its not about us, its about God. Anyway...our pastor was talking about learning lessons through tragedy. He then somehow put that book into the mix and it took everything I had to not start crying right there. Has Josh read the book? If so, do you think he would mind giving me a guys perspective on it? Kevin just feels like reading a book won't do any good.

"I don't care how much it hurts. I don't care if its a brick wall disaster. I'd rather fight with you everday than be happy for one second with anyone else." <3

Kevin & Mari: 11/09/06 to Forever.

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FutureMrsShavers Posts : 8 Registered: 6/13/08
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Posted: Mar 15, 2009 7:50 PM Go to message in response to: EliseKenny09

Hey everyone! I posted a while back but I have been busy with student teaching and school but I have been reading. Student teaching is almost over and I will be posting a lot more.

Welcome Elise!
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