Support Forums: Message List - Engaged but not . . . I'm so frustrated http://www.brides.com/forums Most recent forum messages en Jive Forums Silver 5.5.20 (www.jivesoftware.com) Tue, 21 May 2013 19:43:29 -0400 Re: Engaged but not . . . I'm so frustrated http://www.brides.com/forums/thread.jspa?messageID=345538&tstart=0#345538 News- I agree with you 100% on all you said! I was the same w/ DH.  I told him from Day 1 pretty much that I did not want to live with him until there was ring on my finger and wedding plans were in the works.  My mom even said the same...]]> Mon, 17 Dec 2007 12:31:01 -0500 Mon, 17 Dec 2007 12:31:01 -0500 Mon, 17 Dec 2007 12:31:01 -0500 Dec 17, 2007 NJ4Life 0 Re: Engaged but not . . . I'm so frustrated http://www.brides.com/forums/thread.jspa?messageID=345536&tstart=0#345536 The reason we're not telling anyone is b/c he wants to ask me officially and ask my father for permission. He's really excited about doing it. I have agreed to this, and I thinks its worth the wait.

As for moving in, I am planning...]]> Mon, 17 Dec 2007 12:11:32 -0500 Mon, 17 Dec 2007 12:11:32 -0500 Mon, 17 Dec 2007 12:11:32 -0500 Dec 17, 2007 SillyGirl 0 Re: Engaged but not . . . I'm so frustrated http://www.brides.com/forums/thread.jspa?messageID=344904&tstart=0#344904 I understand the difference. I have been with my FH for 4 1/2 years. At some point we decided we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together- but we didn't want to get married right that second. I was in school, he wasn't settled in his...]]> Fri, 14 Dec 2007 23:01:09 -0500 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 23:01:09 -0500 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 23:01:09 -0500 Dec 14, 2007 MegBride 1 Re: Engaged but not . . . I'm so frustrated http://www.brides.com/forums/thread.jspa?messageID=344901&tstart=0#344901 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 22:11:34 -0500 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 22:11:34 -0500 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 22:11:34 -0500 Dec 14, 2007 2 Re: Engaged but not . . . I'm so frustrated http://www.brides.com/forums/thread.jspa?messageID=344778&tstart=0#344778 Honestly?  I wouldn't move in with him.  Continue to go out with him, spend weekends at his place if you want, but don't LIVE with him.  Will your name be on the title?  Then it isn't really yours and his. ...]]> Fri, 14 Dec 2007 17:09:04 -0500 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 17:09:04 -0500 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 17:09:04 -0500 Dec 14, 2007 newsjunkie 4 Re: Engaged but not . . . I'm so frustrated http://www.brides.com/forums/thread.jspa?messageID=344563&tstart=0#344563
Three-ish years is doable.

It's now the end of the year, a traditional time for look-backs and plans-ahead. Make an appt with FH that at the end of 2008, you'll get together and seriously re-evaluate where...]]> Fri, 14 Dec 2007 12:06:53 -0500 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 12:06:53 -0500 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 12:06:53 -0500 Dec 14, 2007 auntofthebride 0 Re: Engaged but not . . . I'm so frustrated http://www.brides.com/forums/thread.jspa?messageID=344517&tstart=0#344517 Thank you all so much.
I spoke with him last night and we agreed to wait a year until we announce the engagement. (he wants time to setup the house, save and buy a ring) he hints we may announce sooner, he still want to surprise me with a public...]]> Fri, 14 Dec 2007 11:09:00 -0500 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 11:09:00 -0500 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 11:09:00 -0500 Dec 14, 2007 SillyGirl 1 Re: Engaged but not . . . I'm so frustrated http://www.brides.com/forums/thread.jspa?messageID=344487&tstart=0#344487 Just to chime in that I too agree with aunt. My parents also see the engagement period as the discernment period. It's actually part of my culture practice. When FH talked to my parents, my mom said, "reflect on your relationship and see if...]]> Fri, 14 Dec 2007 10:14:24 -0500 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 10:14:24 -0500 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 10:14:24 -0500 Dec 14, 2007 UltimatePink 0 Re: Engaged but not . . . I'm so frustrated http://www.brides.com/forums/thread.jspa?messageID=344466&tstart=0#344466 not to be harsh but i have to agree with what aunt wrote because i have seen what she described happen to people and it is not pleasant

 

i agree with the idea that you should be able to set your own time frame 


 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 08:03:17 -0500 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 08:03:17 -0500 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 08:03:17 -0500 Dec 14, 2007 FALLbrideINLOVE 0 Re: Engaged but not . . . I'm so frustrated http://www.brides.com/forums/thread.jspa?messageID=344354&tstart=0#344354
As usual, I agree with everything Myra said. Allow me to offer a slightly different perspective.

I see the engagement as a period of discernment. You agree to get married, then during the engagement you search your soul to...]]> Thu, 13 Dec 2007 20:14:05 -0500 Thu, 13 Dec 2007 20:14:05 -0500 Thu, 13 Dec 2007 20:14:05 -0500 Dec 13, 2007 auntofthebride 3