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Re: hello... big problem

Thu, 20 Apr 2006 19:41:39 -0400

All I have to say is that if it comes out that you FH is fantasizing about sleeping with this girl, don't EVER make a baby with him.� Because this would be molestation and you don't want to put another child (especially yours) in harms way.� Proceed with...

Re: hello... big problem

Thu, 20 Apr 2006 14:52:51 -0400

I guess you need to get to the bottom of it and I strongly recommend premarital counseling.� Her age is a little too young and while he may not be actually fooling around with her, if he is telling her things like he wants to be with her, that will cause...

Re: hello... big problem

Thu, 20 Apr 2006 14:46:26 -0400

im sorry to be negative here... ive been laying low for while due to the drama on these boards....

but does these scream of "sophie" to anyone else?

sorry if its true but... well.... it just doesnt sound like it

Re: hello... big problem

Wed, 19 Apr 2006 04:48:39 -0400

I guess I don't know what kind of premarital counseling (and church) you're going through, but here's how my pastor put it. Yes, premarital counseling is where you're going to learn a lot about each other, your feelings on sex, finances, children,...

Re: hello... big problem

Tue, 18 Apr 2006 23:13:07 -0400

OK.� Maybe I didn't make myself as clear as I wanted to.� I would never seek counseling before my wedding to work out major issues.� That does not mean that I don't believe in the pre-Cana type classes offered by churches and others.� In fact, FH and...

Re: hello... big problem

Tue, 18 Apr 2006 15:04:39 -0400

umm...

�i dont think the�big problem�in your post is cheating, it is the possibility of statutory rape, or any innapropriate relationship b/t a 21 year old and 15 year old. �

hate to disaggree with all the above, but if you�REALLY...

Re: hello... big problem

Tue, 18 Apr 2006 14:14:39 -0400

Couples that attend good premarital counseling have a much higher success rate in marriage.� It helps you discuss your expectations and values with a neutral party.� I would highly recommend it, so no I don't think counseling is just for the married.� A...

Re: hello... big problem

Tue, 18 Apr 2006 14:02:05 -0400

9302006 Wrote: "marriage counseling is�for married couples who need to work out their issues in order to save their existing marriage.� There's no way I'd go to counseling with a guy to work out our...

Re: hello... big problem

Mon, 17 Apr 2006 18:22:37 -0400

I just wanted to add that I agree with turbosgirl that it is better to discuss than to confront.� I used the word confront in my last post, but now that I think about it, that really isn't the right word.�

I still think that you need to have a...

Re: hello... big problem

Mon, 17 Apr 2006 18:05:25 -0400

First of all, I don't get it.� HE was the one to call that number in the first place, but HE also called the number "to see who it was"?� That makes no sense.

I think you have a major problem regardless of what's going on between FH...